(Closed) Opps…. I quit my job….

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

You have two children and you quit your job?  That is… not smart.  Any chance you can call them and apologize and grovel and try to get it back?

Post # 3
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551 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I’m sure you know this, but I just feel I have to say it…you need to tell your fiance ASAP. This is his life too. And you have two children to support!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

PeachyMama:  I hope this will allow you to get the rest you need, but I wouldn’t take this other co-workers advice anymore. Quitting job after job is really not the best model of behavior to get behind. As someone who has worked full time, gone to school full time, and dealt with a family (but no kids), I do understand the pressure and the agony of going three weeks straight with no day off. I do hope you find something else soon and think perhaps, no matter how terrible you were feeling, this may have been a bit of a rash decision on your part. Maybe take a week or so to gain some perspective and start looking for jobs again. Just remember: things like school are not forever and the stress it brings will soon be over, but it’s important to find a stable job that gives you the safety and comfort of weekly/bi-weekly paychecks. Good luck!

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

You should have talked it over with your Fiance BEFORE you quit, you are not just playing with your life but your Fiance and kids lives. Sorry that was just a stupid move in my opinion. 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

 

PeachyMama:  I’m sorry you were so stressed out but I would be livid if my partner quit their job without talking to me first and knowing that we need that income. That is incredibly irresponsible and puts a lot on your partner’s shoulders. If you have two children that’s even more of a reason to have thought this out better. I think you need to look for another job asap. The difference between you and that nurse you spoke with is that her and her husband are at least on the same page and he is aware of her need to switch jobs (which I also think is irresponsible given the need for a pension and longevity on the job but that’s a whole other issue). This is a big deal and you need to tell your husband asap!This would undoubtedly scare the crap out of me to be with someone that could quit a job and not tell me about it, my trust in that person would be shaken and I would also feel like they didnt’ care that I was now going to be left to be the sole provider until they get rehired.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

If I were you I would start applying for jobs NOW so that when you tell him today you can at least say you’ve been looking in the time since you quit. I’d still be incredibly pissed if I were him, but at least that would soften the blow a bit.

 

Post # 9
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Helper bee

Unfortunately, I think quitting your job will likely make your life even more stressful. Now you will need to be searching for a job on top of everything else, not to mention having to deal with your FIs reaction. Please tell him ASAP.  

I truly wish you a lot of luck. I hope you are able to find another job quickly!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

PeachyMama:  Imagine your Fiance did the same thing without telling you… then you’d both really be screwed.

If I were you I would call up the job and apologize and try and get the job back.

Post # 11
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6448 posts
Bee Keeper

PeachyMama:  I understand that you’re stressed, but honestly – you have two children and a fiance depending on you as well.  This wasn’t a smart move.  That nurse and her husband were on the same page, you clearly weren’t.  I know you hated your job, but what’s more important helping to feed and provide for your children or not having that job?  Sometimes people do what they have to until they can find another job.  I  would have at least spoken to my fiance about it first before up and quitting.

go ahead and call back and try to get your job back.  Besides, when you quit, you have to provide them a two weeks notice, so you better be in on Saturday.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

PeachyMama:  Switching jobs every 3-5 years is not unusual.  Leaving a job after a number of months with no strategy planned, three children to support, and your partner totally in the dark about it?  That is unsuual.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

I totally get being stressed and burnt out and feeling like your job is overwhelming, but this may have been a bad move if you are trying to advance your career in healthcare. Hospital jobs can be competitive, and while it’s great that the nurses loved you in clinicals, they aren’t the ones who would be in charge of hiring you. HR might look at your resume and see that you left your last nursing job in a flounce and decide you are a risky hire. There are obviously execeptions, like your other nurse friend, but this wasn’t not a wise professional move on your part, and very disrespectful to your Fiance to not talk major life decisions over with him. 

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Along with the potential problems this may cause with your relationship, let’s hope that you never need a reference from that job because if you just called in one day and said “Oh gee, I won’t be coming back!” then you’re not going to get a very good reference. It sounds like you were having a tough time, but was it really bad enough that you couldn’t give proper notice and stick with it for 2 more weeks just to not potentially upset your fi and risk not being able to get a reference?

“Yeah, in the regular world, quitting jobs is a bad sign. However, there are a lot of nurses I know that need a different job every 3-5 years.”  No employer thinks it is bad if a person changes jobs every 3-5 years as long as they act like a professional and give proper notice.

 

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