Post # 46
AwkwardCoconut: Yeah, that’s exactly what I mean.. It would prompt me to really sit and evaluate things if the person I loved could be short sighted! Especially with kids, I wouldn’t want to give my kids a life of just ‘scraping by’ because I decided to oops quit my job.
OP, nurses may change jobs frequently but I don’t think they burn bridges by quitting jobs over the phone without notice. Its hard for people to be constructive when you seem to think this is nbd and are content with giving your family a life of barely making ends meet because you didn’t like your job.
Post # 47
Wow I would be PISSED if I was your partner and you hadn’t even discussed it with me. And not even that…you’re deliberately keeping it from him…”he will find out when I don’t go in for work on Saturday”. What kind of communication and respect is that?
Post # 48
Besides what’s already been said, I can’t imagine how I’d feel if my husband decided to quit his job and then told the whole internet before talking to me about it. Girl, get off Weddingbee and talk to your husband.
Post # 49
OP, I know it’s too late in your case and am not trying to make you feel worse. I just want to give some info to anyone else reading this who might be thinking about doing the same thing you did.
Companies have been sued for giving good references for employees who were actually crappy and ended up costing the inquiring company money. (Jane crashed a delivery truck and was fired from ABC Co. She applies to XYZ Co and they call ABC who says “oh yeah, she was great” because she was nice and all. Jane then crashes XYZ’s delivery truck, they learn she’s done it before, and they sue ABC.) Companies have also been sued for giving bad references for employees who then could not get another job. So in order to avoid both of these scenarios, most companies these days only provide the following pieces of info: Dates of employment, titles held, salary, and eligibility for rehire. So the only one that gives any hint of your performance is the last one. Quitting without giving notice almost universally makes you ineligible for rehire. That almost universally means your resume goes in the trash and the recruiter moves on to the next one on their pile of 300. You should always give 2 weeks’ notice.
Post # 50
Let me be one of the few that tells you something:
GOOD FOR YOU!
You have responsibilities, you have savings and the ability to live, without you working for 13 months. What exactly is the issue here people? How many people are living from paycheck to paycheck with kids? (I know, probably nobody as it’s the internet where everyone is responsible and makes 10x more than they spend with credit scores of 800+) How many people would be royally fucked if they lost their job instead of just quit.
This woman is miserable and she saw that a change needed to be made. I think that’s pretty damn responsible of herSELF. She’s taking care of herself which….sometimes, even as a mother, you need to do. I doubt she would have quit if it would have meant they would be homeless next month.
Post # 51
PeachyMama: yikes I have several out of work nurse friends. I think it’s tough in that field. I would be livid if I were your Fiance. Good luck.
Post # 52
PeachyMama: can you call and explain you were going through a tough time and made an impulsive decision, your daughter is having health issues, etc? I would at least try to beg for my job back.
Post # 53
KC-2722: that’s “opps quit my job” to be more precise 🙂
Post # 54
gingerminty: taking care of yourself and communicating with the person you’re spending your life with are not mutually exclusive.
Post # 55
I’m sorry Bee, but I would be hella-pissed if my Fiance quit his job without talking to me about it. What if your Fiance quit HIS job without discussing with you? I think you would feel a certain kinda way about it. If it’s what you discussed, and you’re both onboard, then great, but doing it on your own? Not so much. I think you need to tell him ASAP. I also think that when you have kids their needs and security come first, no ifs ands or butts. 2 months isn’t all that long, and nursing jobs are not a dime a dozen. Im glad that you’re feeling more relaxed, but I really think you went about it the wrong way.
Post # 56
gingerminty: Are you for real? It’s HOORAY FOR HER because she up and quit her job with no notice and no input from her fiance, just because they have a small pot of money in the bank? Because by that same token, I should just go throw a couple weeks’ pay into the river because, hey, what’s the problem? I’ve got a little cushion in the bank! That’s just asinine. Even more asinine when it is a matter of shared finances and shared responsibilities.
Post # 57
Horseradish: Sorry my post got you so upset. Hope you feel better soon!
Post # 58
PeachyMama: it’s dull, but I think your idea of cleaning the house is a good one and critical. If your Fiance has been doing it all recently as you say, then that is one thing you can do to lighten his load and make home life immediately better for everyone. if you have less on in the next 3 weeks but your Fiance sees you studying your butt off AND taking the burden of keeping the house nice and cooking some nice family meals, it may soften his probable and understandable anger and resentment.
Post # 59
Omg once again the Bees are enjoying ganging up and taking someone to task FAR beyond what is warranted. Reconsider marriage? Really? She has explained she has a significant buffer for the worst case scenario. She’ll get a part time job. it sounds to me like she’s been working her ass of and is responsible in general and just had weak moment and lack of good judgement and SHE KNOWS IT! I swear sometimes the Bees are so self righteous and annoying.
Post # 60
sept22insf: Amen. A lot of bees don’t want to support but *tisk tisk* the OP until the sun goes down.
They want to criticize under the guise of support and when they get called out on it they just shriek “We’re just not telling the OP what she wants to hear!”
No worries, though. Says more about them than it does the OP.