(Closed) Opting out of Having an Engagement Party

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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1184 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m not having an engagement party because it’s just spending extra money everybody already knows I’m getting married by word of mouth. I am however having a rehearsal dinner. Future Father-In-Law is paying for that.

Post # 4
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5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

They’re just not traditional in our family, so I’m not going to ask for one, and probably won’t have one.

Post # 5
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6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I did not have an engagement party! 

All of my friends and family are from out of town – It is one thing to ask them to travel for a wedding but I wouldn’t make them travel for multiple events celebrating the same thing!

Post # 6
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476 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

We didn’t have one.  I’ve never been invited to one and never even heard of anyone having one.  I think the wedding and showers are plenty.

Post # 7
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1982 posts
Buzzing bee

We were supposed to have one, but because of how crazy stuff with the wedding was, we ended up not having one. It’s kind of nice, I think, because we really dont need extra gifts. 🙂

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Ok, I went against all the rules of etiquette on this on.  Fiance and I threw a pseudo-engagement party for ourselves (I know, I know!) at our favorite bar one summer night!  It wasn’t for family…just our friends.  We invited them all to our favorite spot (about 60 people!) and at some point thoughout the night we told them we were engaged!  We bought about $100 worth of appetizers and everyone bought their own drinks.  It definitely was not a tradtional engagement party–but I have to say everyone had an AWESOME time.  Very relaxed, and celebratory vibe…

Post # 9
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16215 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I didn’t have one. Most of my friends/family members did not have one. It’s just not the “norm” so much for us. I didn’t feel like I missed out by not having one because I know that when the wedding rolls around, everyone will be so happy for us then!

Post # 10
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369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Virginia – I love what you did! What a nice laid back way of doing it without going all out and breaking the bank. 

Post # 11
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621 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We are not planning one.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Hmm, I’m in the minority here! In FI’s family, engagement parties are traditional. I wasn’t really that excited about it, but of course accepted their gracious offer to give us one. 

Well, it was awesome! I am so glad we had it and so grateful to FI’s parents. It was at their home, there were about 30-40 people, many of which were family members and family friends of his that I had not met. It was celebratory and we felt very much like the guests of honor, but it was much more relaxed than the wedding will be. It was really nice to be able to celebrate like that without all the pressure of the wedding.

Post # 13
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1051 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

We live in a different state than basically ALL our friends and family, so there was never a thought of having an engagement party.  We got engaged in June and didn’t get back to our hometown till Thanksgiving.  I would have felt a little silly having a big shindig by then.

Post # 14
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1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We’re out of town too and didn’t have one. 

Post # 15
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242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We didn’t really have one.  The to-be Mr. proposed on the day my family threw a graduation party for me so all my friends and family were at a party when they found out we were engaged but that wasn’t the planned purpose of the party.  His family is from about 3 hours away and we went down and visited them shortly thereafter but no party really.  Then a couple days after that we moved away to go to school.  As appealing as an engagement party sounds, we’ve been engaged now over a year and it doesn’t really feel like it’d be appropriate.  I didn’t even know about engagment parties until we were already engaged for like 6 months. 

oh wells!

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

My FH and I didn’t have one…mostly because of hectic scheduling conflicts, family living far away and all of our friends are younger and know by word-of-mouth anyway.

 

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