(Closed) Options for inviting coworkers: please help!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Which option should I choose for inviting coworkers? (Please read the post below before voting)
    A. Invite only certain people. : (15 votes)
    47 %
    B. Don't invite any. : (12 votes)
    38 %
    C. Do a mass invite and let them come to you if they are interested. : (5 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    7587 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    It’s your job. I try to keep everything seperate.

    Post # 5
    Member
    1756 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    For our wedding, we had “Invitation Audition Parties”. We threw two parties at our house, one for my coworkers and one for his. Those who did not bother to come were cut from the wedding invite list. Those who came but were really awkward (more of an issue with his coworkers) were also cut from the list. The remaining folks received invitations. On my side, 9 out of 10 attended. On his side, 3 out of 7 attended. It ended up working out really well.

    Post # 6
    Member
    10287 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @redherring: Thats interesting. Did your co-workers know that they were auditioning?

    Fiance and I both work for the same company. He’s been there for almost 5 years and I have been there for over 3. Its a large corporation but our departments work closely with each other. Since I deal with his guys on a regular basis and they are all pretty close we chose to invite everyone in his department, plus their wives (8 total). My department is small (3 people) and we’re all pretty chummy so we are inviting each of them with their spouses. In total it adds 14 people to our guest list but we are only having 75 total so we could justify it. 

    I was always told not to talk about the wedding at work unless your co-workers are invited but if your not the one bringing it up then I think your ok. I personally would definitely not go the mass email route. Thats a little too risky for me.

    I would invite the co-workers that you are closest with and the ones that you want to be there, not those that you feel obligated to include. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    1555 posts
    Bumble bee

    There are only two people I feel close enough to at work to invite. They have sort of adopted me as a surrogate daughter, so those two would get an invite. Other than that, everyone else would be SOL.

    Post # 8
    Member
    1756 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @UpstateCait: No, as that would have likely skewed the results. Literally all of my coworkers were thrilled to be invited to our house for a party, and every single one of them got a wedding invitation. My husband’s coworkers were a lot more ambivalent, and maybe 10% of them were invited. And especially for our wedding, we only wanted to invite people who were genuinely enthusiastic about being there. (And, for the record, my coworkers had a blast using the photobooth. There might even be a picture of my boss wearing a tiara.)

    Post # 10
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    1763 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We did a mass invite and those interested we gave an invitation to. There would have been way too many invitations since we both have large groups of co-workers.

    Post # 11
    Member
    411 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    @tessa9876 if it’s common for brides at your work to invite everyone, then you need to invite everyone. Go based on the traditions that you’ve noticed. It’s likely not everyone will come, but it needs to be done.

    Post # 12
    Member
    572 posts
    Busy bee

    I am trying to decide as well. I don’t talk about the wedding unless someone asks. Then what do you do? I am not close to any in my department. We don’t see eachother after work. I had one person outside my department actually ask to be invited. I like her so I probably will. I thought of inviting a sub committe that I work on but I don’t want to invite all of them, so I think not. I report to too many individuals to simply invite my “boss”. So at this point, I plan to invite only those that I want to and not worry about it. We are at our max on the guest list, so it would be impossible anyway. My FH works for a small business, so we have decided to invite them all as good will.

    Post # 13
    Member
    527 posts
    Busy bee

    We are a pretty tight knit group where I work, but I am only inviting coworkers who I would normally hang out with or see socially outside of work.

    Post # 14
    Member
    711 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    You are a teacher at a school right? How many people work there? The schools around here have a pretty large staff…that seems unrealistic to invite everyone.

    I am planning on inviting the people from my work that I hang out with outside of work. But then again, I am also planning on quitting my job before the wedding to start a new business.

    Post # 15
    Member
    6998 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    i only invited 4 people from work. my boss and the people in my department. i wish i could have invited more but i just cant allow my guest list to get that big. I think people understand that.

    Post # 16
    Hostess
    18637 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    If you are having a small wedding, I wouldn’t invite anyone.  If they asked you about it, just tell them that you are having an intimate ceremony.  It sounds like you can’t afford to let everyone come, and I don’t think it’s right to pick favorities since all your coworkers have similar relationships with you.  If you had a few coworkers that were your best friends and you see eachother outside work all the time, it would be different.

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