(Closed) Options! Maiden name replacing middle name?

posted 5 years ago in Traditions
Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

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ashleymarie843 :  A couple of my friends have done this and are happy with it.  I thought about doing it this way, but middle names are used so rarely that I’m just going to do a double barrelled last name.  Where I live, I can go by either last name (or both, unhyphenated) legally.  Another option if you love your last name!

Post # 17
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Bee Keeper

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ashleymarie843 :  I had planned on doing this, but at the end, I utltimately decided to drop my maiden all together and keep my middle name and I’m happy I did it this way despite the other idea of how many people do their names now.

Post # 18
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

DH and I both took my maiden name as a second middle name. I’m the last generation with my last name, so it was really important to me to keep it. We made the decision of which order based on which way the names sounded better together, not because it was more traditional to take his. We have the symbolism of a family name and the convenience of a short un-hyphenated name, and it feels feminist and ‘fair’ to me. I feel so lucky to have a man who was willing to change his name for me.

Post # 19
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

This is what I want to do but i’m trying to figure out the process in Texas. Some websites say that you have to go to court in order to do this as opposed to just the normal route once you’re married.

I’ve been married a month and still haven’t figured it out.

Post # 20
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

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ashleymarie843 :  This is what I did, but I’m from the south so it’s what I’m used to. I was actually surprised to learn later in life that not everyone did this – and remember being confused when a friend of mine from college dropped her last name and kept her first/middle.

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I did this and I love it. I loved my previous middle name but hardly used it as it was. I’m totally fine with the name change. 🙂

Post # 22
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2017

 

DH and I both took my maiden name as a second middle name. I’m the last generation with my last name, so it was really important to me to keep it.

I love this idea!! My dad and paternal uncle had all girls with our family last name. My paternal aunt had two boy but of course they have their dad’s last name, so there isn’t a son to pass it down.

I’ll bring this up to my fiancé. It’s important to him that I take his surname, but I’ve been trying to figure out how to include my maiden name. I don’t want to hyphenate as it would make filling out forms a nightmare. I am considering the Southern way of Given + Maiden + Married names. But dropping my middle name altogether would make me feel bad, as my dad named my middle name. I didn’t think two last names was workable, but this may be a nice solutions.

Question – On forms, when you have middle names what do you fill out when they ask you for your middle initial?

Post # 23
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Blushing bee

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slomotion :  I know this was posted a few weeks ago, but I wanted to tell you slomotion that I did not have to go to court in Texas. I went to SS with my marriage certificate and filled out the SS form to be new name MyFirst MyOldLast MyNewLast. I didn’t get any grief from SS about it. Then, at the DMV, I showed them the temporary SS card I was given as proof of name change. Just double check at the DMV that they put the name in correctly. They had to redo mine because the first time they didn’t match it to the SS info I gave them.

Post # 24
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

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ronmcdon :  Thank you! I just met someone at work who did the same thing so i’m going to give it a shot!

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

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ashleymarie843 :  I’m from the south and hadn’t thought of this. My mother and mother in law both have their maiden name as their middle name. Thanks for starting this discussion. I’m going to seriously consider it!!!  

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

For my first marriage, I did the easiest thing — nothing. Just kept my name as is. For some reason, I think I want to change my last name this time around. I will opt to get rid of my maiden name altogether and just go with firstname middlename newlastname. Seems kind of like a fresh start to me.

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015 - City, State

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ashleymarie843 :  I didn’t realize is was southern tradition?! But I kept my last name as my maiden name. It was easy for me because I didn’t like my middle name! But also because I felt that my last name was my identity, and I didn’t want to give that up. I don’t regret it, this is who I am! Plus, I love my last maiden name!

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’m keeping my maiden last name as my middle name.  I feel more of a connection to it than my middle name! 

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

It probably varies by state, but where I am, when you get the marriage license, you have the option to use any combination of your current middle name, last name, and husband’s last name, including hypenations. You write what you want your name to be, then change it through DMV, SSA, etc. So it’s equally easy to move your maiden name to middle name or retain your middle name as is. Just depends how attached you are to your names and their significance.

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