- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2016
DH and I both took my maiden name as a second middle name. I’m the last generation with my last name, so it was really important to me to keep it. We made the decision of which order based on which way the names sounded better together, not because it was more traditional to take his. We have the symbolism of a family name and the convenience of a short un-hyphenated name, and it feels feminist and ‘fair’ to me. I feel so lucky to have a man who was willing to change his name for me.
This is what I want to do but i’m trying to figure out the process in Texas. Some websites say that you have to go to court in order to do this as opposed to just the normal route once you’re married.
I’ve been married a month and still haven’t figured it out.
I did this and I love it. I loved my previous middle name but hardly used it as it was. I’m totally fine with the name change. 🙂
DH and I both took my maiden name as a second middle name. I’m the last generation with my last name, so it was really important to me to keep it.
I love this idea!! My dad and paternal uncle had all girls with our family last name. My paternal aunt had two boy but of course they have their dad’s last name, so there isn’t a son to pass it down.
I’ll bring this up to my fiancé. It’s important to him that I take his surname, but I’ve been trying to figure out how to include my maiden name. I don’t want to hyphenate as it would make filling out forms a nightmare. I am considering the Southern way of Given + Maiden + Married names. But dropping my middle name altogether would make me feel bad, as my dad named my middle name. I didn’t think two last names was workable, but this may be a nice solutions.
Question – On forms, when you have middle names what do you fill out when they ask you for your middle initial?
For my first marriage, I did the easiest thing — nothing. Just kept my name as is. For some reason, I think I want to change my last name this time around. I will opt to get rid of my maiden name altogether and just go with firstname middlename newlastname. Seems kind of like a fresh start to me.
I’m keeping my maiden last name as my middle name. I feel more of a connection to it than my middle name!
It probably varies by state, but where I am, when you get the marriage license, you have the option to use any combination of your current middle name, last name, and husband’s last name, including hypenations. You write what you want your name to be, then change it through DMV, SSA, etc. So it’s equally easy to move your maiden name to middle name or retain your middle name as is. Just depends how attached you are to your names and their significance.
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