Post # 1
So these are three options that me fiance and I are considering for our engagement. We want to be sensible with the money, especially in this economy, and have the best day of our lives. If we could plan for the future, that would be a bonus too. So take a look and vote on your favorite! Thanks for the input!
Option #1: Would be to spend our whole budget on a large extravagant wedding ceremony and reception. This option would use all of our budget but would help give us our "fairytale" wedding.
Option #2: To have a family dinner and have Pastor Bill perform a small ceremony at one of the houses. Be married and start our lives together. Then have a reception a few months later. This option would save the money from the church and possible other formalities from option #1. But it would also allow us to save, hopefully, half of our wedding budget for a house.
Option #3: To go to Reno or Tahoe to elope with a few family and friends. Then spend our wedding money on a down payment on a house/condo. This option would allow us to spend most of our money on our future, but the guestlist would be limited. And all of our family and friends may not be there.
So those are the three options we were considering. If you can think of any other options, let us know. We would love your feedback on this issue! We are just barely starting the planning phase but both of these items will help in continuing the plans. <3
*Note: We do live in the Bay area, so we’re trying to make it as "cheap" but elegant as possible. Which is almost impossible with inflation. I would also rather get married sooner vs later. We’re Christians and saving ourselves. 🙂
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2018 - Auberge du Soleil
These are touch choices. I don’t know if #2 would save you much money because you would still have a reception in the future. #3 might not save you too much either – we had a destiation wedding with 50 guests and it was still a serious event. I would suggest a brunch wedding! It is way cheaper and you can still invite your family and friends and have an elegant and beautiful day! It is a tough decision but I’m sure you guys will make the right choice! Good luck and have fun! Mrs. Pinot Noir
Post # 4
It sounds like you want your friends and family there and still want a fairly ‘traditional’ wedding, but want a bit of financial security. I totally understand that! If it were me, I would aim for spending half of my budget and putting the other half away for the future. It’s a great time to buy real estate in most places, as long as you’re careful and don’t get stuck in the ‘mortgage crisis.’
Some thoughts about the wedding itself, with #2, you’re likely to still have some kind of reception/meal with the people that came, so waiting would probably mean that you only spend more money. Also, unless you’re likely to get a substantial chunk of income in the couple of months following the wedding, I don’t see how this would really help.
If you only want to spend half of your budget and still have a reception here are a few options:
Limit the guest list if you can, less people are less expensive!
Have a brunch, cocktail, or desert reception. As long as you state it on your invitation, people won’t come hungry, it will be cute, allow people to mingle, and you’ll save a ton by not serving a full meal.
Think of other places you can save: do you need a DJ and dancing, or can you put together a nice playlist and use an iPod or something similar? Do you have any talented people in your families/friends who can help? (I don’t have a ton, but I was lucky enough to have some) If you start thinking like this, you’ll soon have a bunch of ways you can save money that work for you.
Post # 5
thank you. i think i liked #2 option.. cause that means we can finally get married 🙂 and just be together and deal with wedding stuff and financial sgtuff later. Cause without it we arent moving in together or anything else like that,…ya know?
Post # 6
I just have to say that a friend of mine recently had a wedding in Tahoe, and it was ABSOLUTELY GORGEOUS! If you’re still considering the destination wedding option, definitely look into that!
Post # 7
We’re getting married in Tahoe, but it is not really a cheap alternative.
I hope that whatever you decide, that you have a meaningful wedding that creates great memories!
Post # 8
Since I don’t know your situation its hard to pick an option. I think you should just do whats in your heart. Think about 40 years from now, which option would mean the most?
Post # 9
I notice that you mention you are Christian but a church does not seem important to your wedding plans. I would think the deciding factor here should then be, how important is it to spend your wedding day with family and friends? If you both agree that this is a day you want to share, I would suggest option 2 with a slight modification. Have a back yard reception now instead of waiting a few months. You should be able to put together a back yard party quickly and cheaply. The main expenses would be food and rentals (unless you can get relatives to cook and happen to have enought table s and chairs) and these are both controllable. If you want dancing, you can even rent a tent and dancefloor. However, if your priorities are on each other, I think a mini destination weddeing oculd also be cheap and serve as a built in honeymoon. Assuming you are not inviting "guests" I can’t see what costs you would incur besides your and his flights/hotel/car rental, etc. I don’t know how long you have been dating but would advise not to make your decision based on time pressure, while it is exciting to finally live together, you’ve waited this long, a couple more months won’t make that big of a difference if it allows you to have the wedding you want to remember.