Post # 1
I have been in a relationship with a man for 8 years, engaged for 3 and living together for 4 years. We are trying to plan our wedding and money is obviously a issue. The first wake up call was when we went to do a down payment on a venue and the card was declined. We made sacrifices so we could have our wedding-we even held out on having another child eventhough it wa something important to the both of us. We will be paying for the wedding our self as both our family don’t believe in helping with the cost of any wedding not just ours but that how they generally feel.
Now he brought up the option of destination wedding or a weddingmoon and even that is expensive. PLus our friends and family will not be able to come because it is so expensive and much to ask people to travel for our wedding. when we checked out prices for just the 2 of us to our native island it was around $4000 and up for everything all inclusive air-fare, food, private ceremony and that was with the most basic things.
To be honest I wanted something to include our family and our children from previous relationship so that we can join the families on a good note. Not to mention how offended our parents will be if we run off somewhere to get married.
A corthouse wedding is not a option for me and I made that cvlear—it is just not something I envisioned for us and remembering it wouldmake me sad.
what tips do you have so we can still make this wedding happen and include family?
Post # 3
Money became an issue for us during the planning. For the ceremony we found that parks are usually pretty cheap places to get married (some are public but not too bad). For the reception we found a nice restaurant that doesn’t charge a room fee for about thirty people to eat dinner. And negotiate with vendors, a lot of people will help out if you tell them your budget. Our photographer gave us a HUGE discount (about half off or so) from what she’d normally charge.
Post # 4
Honestly I am having to put together a wedding in 8 weeks. I chose an unorthodox time (10 a.m.) for the wedding date. It saved me over 1000 for the venue rental. My venue allows outside catering with very little restrictions, which means that my grandmother can cater which saved me a ton. Mine is truly a family affair in which my family members and friends are taking part in my special day. My photographer is young and just starting out and we got her for a steal.
Post # 5
Thank you so much for the replies, I am going to check outbthe park idea it will also work well because the pictures would be in the same place. I think the big money eater is the reception. I am starting to get so discouraged that I just feel like giving up sometimes.
Post # 6
Well, it sounds like you have some credit card debt, so I would definitely not advocate putting yourself further into debt for a wedding, especially since you have children.
Do you have a back yard, or do you have any close family members who have a big enough backyard where they could host a small wedding and reception in the summer? What about local parks or club houses (often free or inexpensive).
You could host a brunch reception, lunch reception or appetizer only reception to cut down on the food cost – or have a potluck reception. You could also try to do the food yourself, with the help of a few family members. Maybe big dishes of pasta, salad, rolls with butter, or a “build your own” sandwich bar. BBQ is also a good option.
I don’t know what the marriage rules are in Canada, but perhaps you could have a friend ordained online who could perform the ceremony for you, so it was more special to you than going to a JP?
Use and iPod vs. a DJ for music, and try to find a student photographer, or someone just starting out to save on photographer costs.
Depending on when you want to get married, and what colors you want, you could shop after holiday sales for decoration items in your color scheme on sale (i.e., red/green/gold items after Christmas, black/orange/yellow items after Halloween, pinks/reds/whites after Valentine’s Day). Good luck!
Post # 7
How much do you want to spend on the wedding? Once you have a budget you can then research weddings within your budget and make it work for you. There are many many ways to cut costs on a wedding such as cutting professionnal photogs, using a regular hall such as a school hall or gym instead of a banquet hall, having buffet style food ordered from a local buffet instead of paying high-per person catering fees of regular wedding banquet halls. My total budget is 6000 and I got my inspiration from a friend who did her entire wedding for 4500 and still have a beautiful designer dress, limo and the works..
Moral of the story: Weddings can be done at any budget.
Post # 8
@maplelove:i forgot that we too are going the park route for our wedding! our venue is less than 30 seconds away from it so we will have the ceremony there. For us it is a refundable 100.00 and we have to rent chairs which are about 1.25 each.
Post # 9
Thanks everyone—as you can see a year later and I am still not married.