(Closed) Oral on Uncircumsized … Would you? Do you?

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Would you give oral if he is Uncircumsized?
    Yes : (545 votes)
    76 %
    No : (173 votes)
    24 %
  • Post # 197
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    Bumble bee

    Wow what varied responses on here. I’m on the side of : why is this such an issue? Just don’t see the big deal of uncircumcised/vs circumcised Penis. 

    Post # 198
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    Sugar bee

    @AlexaN:  Fiance is uncircumsized in the sense that he never had anything cut off. However, he and my ex (who are both uncirc’ed and from Guatemala, so I’ve heard is the practice there) that when they’re about 12 or so they just pull the skin back all the way. So when it’s erect, the helmet is out just like a circ’ed guy and I don’t really notice much extra skin. So that doesn’t bother me at all as far as oral goes. That being said, my first encounter with a BJ was an uncirc’ed guy from Italy and his turtle was ALWAYS enclosed in a “hose” of skin. No, no, no, never, ever, ever again. Gak!

    Post # 199
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    Sugar bee

    @Peachytalk:  I think maybe it depends on how much skin the guy has…cause I’ve seen one I wish I could erase from my mind.

    Post # 200
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    Helper bee

    An ex-boyfriend of mine had an uncircumcised penis, one where the foreskin didn’t fold back even when erect. He never mentioned it, so the first time I saw it I freaked out a little. He also said oral sex/sex was uncomfortable for him because it felt tight. It pretty much looked like letter A in this diagram:

     

     

     

     

    I get where OP is coming from. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and sometimes we can’t help what we find attractive. I didn’t like giving him oral either. But if I had been madly in love with him I don’t think it would have mattered as much.

     

     

     

    Post # 201
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @petalpetal:  That’s actually a medical condition, though I can’t remember what it’s called. Basically the foreskin doesn’t retract and it can cause sex to be painful. He should see a doctor because it can usually be helped without surgery in most cases by stretching and stuff.

    Post # 202
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    Helper bee

    @echapman:  Yeah, I used to remember what it was called, too.

    Well, this was an ex-boyfriend from years ago so I don’t talk to him anymore. 

    Post # 203
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    Sugar bee

    @cmvmph:  You’ve got a point! I had my first son circ’ed and I never did it again after that. It is horrible the way that they do it. And they didn’t cut enough skin off and it kept reattaching to the tip for 9 months after he was born. Diaper changes were screaming bloody murder. The doctor said if it didn’t heal up by the time he was a year old they’d have to do it again. Luckily it did heal up when he was 9 months old, but still, it was torture. I swore I would never do that again and my two youngest sons have all their foreskin.

    Post # 204
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Odd, since a uncircumcised penis is a natural penis – circumcised is the modified/surgically altered version. 

    Word to all the American girls out there (I’m one myself) – but if you ever want to date/marry a guy from Europe, UK, Australia, New Zealand, or South Africa – oh hell basically anywhere in the world other than the US or Jewish populations – you will have a guy with an uncircumcised dick. 

    In the 1950’s there was a myth about “hygiene” being the reason to circumcise boys – up until that time it was basically only Jewish men who were cut. (There are a few other religious populations who do it too) So for about 40 years in the US only you had many non-Jewish men who were cut. Then it was realized that due to modern plumbing, there was really no good reason to circumcise boys -hygiene was only an issue if you didn’t have easy access to bath/showers – but there were many negatives to it. 

    There are now entire clubs devoted to circumsized men who feel they were mutilated and robbed of their natural state & range of sexual pleasure. A big anticircumcision movement has taken hold here as a result and circumcision is becoming less and less popular. Most women I know who had baby boys in the last 10 years opted not to have them cut, so it would seem that in the near future that uncut men will again be the norm in the US among gentile men. 

    Post # 205
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    Busy Beekeeper

    Its still a dick, so yeah and I have. 

    Post # 206
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: Central Park

    If it’s the loose skin that icks you out you could try pulling it back and holding it against his balls and doing oral just like on a circumcised guy. If he is hygenic it shouldn’t have a lot of smegma. If it does just ask him to go clean up. But if you hate giving oral just talk to him about it.

    Post # 207
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I know my preference for cut men is the direct result of my negative experiences. I also don’t like the way uncut penises look. Just because something is natural, it doesn’t mean it is attractive. I know that cut penises are uncommon in some parts of the world, but where I live this is not the case. My first boyfriend was uncircumsized, but I didn’t see his penis until I was already in love with him.

    What is so terrible about having a preference?

    Post # 208
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    Sugar bee

    Most men consider their penis as an extension of themselves ; that you don’t like performing oral is fine, that you have preferences is fine ; but that you don’t because it grosses you out that he’s not cut, well I would say, be really careful not to hurt his feelings. As someone said, what if your man felt like gagging just kissing your breasts ? How would you feel ? I’m not saying to push yourself beyond your limits and preferences, my point is : please don’t show ”disgust” toward a part of him that is important and represents his virility, because it’s important that preferences don’t end up humiliating him or upsetting him because he would feel rejected or disgusting to you. 

    To answer the question, here very few men are cut, it’s a cultural/trendy thing, and where I live it’s not common at all for guys of my generation. I’ve never been with a guy who had a circumcision so, to me it’s perfectly okay as long as it’s cleaned properly. My fiancé washes and refreshes himself every night before going to bed, just in case..!

    Post # 209
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @bigcitybee:  All that loose skin? Have you actually looked at an intack forskin? There is really not that much skin and when they have an erection, it pulls back on its own. 

    I think this attitude is really weird. If men went around saying, I’m grossed out by women that don’t have fake boobs, or some other permanent surgical alteration, they would get sooooo much shit. Apparently though, it’s fine for women to say that a man should cut a part of his body off to make it look prettier. 

    I just don’t get it. 

    Post # 210
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    491 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @AlexaN:  From what you have written now and in your previous posts, it sounds like you need to adjust your technique and learn to work with an uncircumcised penis. 

    The forskin is there to protect the glands of the penis and keep them covered during day to day activites. Keeping them covered keeps them sensitive. As a courtesy to you, he should give it a quick wash before and it’s okay to ask him to do this. 

    When your Fiance gets an erection the forskin should retract to expose most of the glands. If this is not happening, then he needs to continue to seek medical attention. If it feels painful for either of you during sex then something is wrong and it sounds like it’s not retracting properly. You should not be able to feel it either as it should mostly be tucked behind the head of the penis. 

    If all is working as it should, then when giving a HJ or oral you should not really not touch the glands directly. They are very sensitive and will likely be more than he can stand or actually feel painful. Like someone pressing hard on right on your clit, and you can imagine how it might feel. 

    Instead, use your thumb and fore finger to make a ring that is over the top of the foreskin, then use the rest of your hand or hands on the shaft. You should then pull it up over the glands as far as is comfortable and feels nice for him. Ask him for guidance. This is actually a lot easier than they way you have to do it on an uncircumcised penis. When giving oral, you can GENTLY use your tongue or lips on the glands but not too hard. Ask him what he likes and adjust your technique accordingly. I am sure you could get more advice on technique online or from a book or something. 

    If you find the foreskin a bit off-putting because you are not used to it, desensise yourself slowly. Just to a little oral or give it a few kisses before doing something else. If you want to, you can get used to it over time if you just change your attitude and stop telling yourself it’s disgusting. If you can’t get over your digust it might really hurt your relationship. I know I would be incredibly hurt if my Fiance found any part of my body disgusting. He even accepts my weird looking toes. 🙂 

     

    Post # 211
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I’ve never known a circumsised man. Here in the UK it’s “normal” not to be. If i’m honest I find the idea of so many women saying “if someone didn’t perform unecessary surgery on a man when he was a baby i’m not interested” to be pretty horrifying. I also agree with pp that if men were here demanding plastic vanity surgery on women as a standard it would be called out as shallow and out of order. 

     

    If you don’t like oral you don’t like it and that’s fine, we’re all different but i don’t like “normal” to be redefined as chopping bits of genitals off if that’s quite alright. 

     

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