Post # 1
So my Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have had discussions about getting married and he only has 3 things he really wants. 1. Not to get married in a church (which is fine with me because neither of us are religious). 2. Have a friend marry us (which I would also love, but I would have to look into Michigan law about being able to do that) 3. He wants to wear an orange tux. This is where my problem lies. I want to give him what he wants (originally it was purple but that doesn’t really work with a fall theme), but I want us to have at least a nice looking ceremony. And he wants the Jimmy Carrey suit from Dumb & Dumber with the ruffles and the top hat. I told him I would be fine with it for the reception, just not the ceremony. He then said he wouldn’t want to get 2 tuxes and would just go with a basic tux for the whole thing. Any ideas as to what I can do to make us both happy? Thanks!
Post # 3
When it came to my hubby’s outfit, he didn’t pick out exactly what I would want him to, but I felt that if he lets me dress the way I want to, I should do the same for him. Plus, on the wedding day his outfit will be the last thing you’re thinking/worrying about.
Post # 4
I think @artbee is right. If he really wants to wear an orange ruffled tux, fine. I wouldn’t want my Fiance to wear that, either, but I also wouldn’t want to set up any possibility for resentment. He might end up talking himself out of it as the day gets closer, anyway.
Post # 5
generally i’m all for compromise, but i’m not sure that there’s really much of a compromise that exists between a normal black tux and an orange ruffley one. maybe an orange tie? honestly, i’d say let the issue rest for a bit as you still have awhile until the wedding. maybe he’ll realize on his own that he’s probably not going to want to look back at pictures and see himself dressed up as a character from dumb and dumber at his wedding.
Post # 6
Maybe you can find one on ebay / costume shop / etc for cheap for the reception, then he can rent a regular tux for the ceremony. You have a long time – let it go for a while. I agree he won’t actually want his photos to look silly.
Post # 7
I have no problem of him wearing an orange ruffle tux at the reception. I think it would be great. I just don’t want to look back at the nice professioinal pictures and be blinded by all the orange.
@pb and j: I think having him wear an orange ties and vest would be a great idea! Then he could have what he wanted and I would have what i want too. I was thinking of buying him the orange tux. He is pretty conservative with money on certain things and I think it would be a good pre-wedding gift for him. Thoughts on that?
Post # 8
I totally thought of “Dumb and Dumber”. Maybe the idea of orange tie and vest will quench his desire to wear an orange tux at the ceremony? I think the compromise of a more traditional tux/suit for the wedding and an orange outfit for the reception.
Let us know how this pans out!
Post # 9
I would just have him go into a tux place w/ you and let him pick the tux out…maybe he will end up liking a light tan tux w/ orange vest/tie, or chocolate brown tux w/ orange vest/tie instead…
Post # 10
I’m all for compromise with an orange tie/shirt/vest. I think that would be fine. Where does one purchase an orange tux…if this is the route you’re going.
Post # 11
There is actually a website that has every color in the rainbow of ruffled tuxes! They are pretty funny looking. I will let you know as time goes on, how it all pans out! Thanks for your help!
Post # 12
I wouldn’t worry about resentment. Try to find a cheap/affordable orange tux in a thrift store or ebay and surprise him with it. And I would just drop the subject in the meanwhile. That way, if you pull it off, he’d be so psyched. And I wouldn’t worry about resentment, chances are you wouldn’t be the only person that shoots down that idea.