Post # 1
We’re finalizing our ceremony and I have a few questions for others who have been married by a relgious officiant, but with a more nondemonimational wedding style.
Where in the ceremony did you sign your licence? Right now we’re signing ours at the end, but for some reason, it feels like it should be in the middle before we do the vows?
What about the exhance of rings and kiss? Again, we have a prayers and blessings afterwards. I can see doing on final blessing before the recessional, but for some reason, I thought the exhance of vows, rings and kiss would be nearer to the end?
We were also thinking about doing a handfasting. If you did something like this (or other unity ceremony), at what point in the ceremony did you do it? Before vows, after?
Post # 3
@FoolsintheRain: i am not married yet, but we will be signing our civil marriage license with the rabbi right before the ceremony, along with signing our ketubbah (jewish marriage contract)
this is a jewish wedding.
Post # 4
What kind of religious officiant are you being married by? It seems to be more common for the vows/rings/kiss to be right at the end in a secular ceremony, most Christian ceremonies I’ve been to it has been more near the middle.
Post # 5
@ajillity81: thanks. I wondered about doing it that way, but thought maybe it would seem like we had forgotten something if we signed the registry before?
@Wonderstruck: We are getting married by the united church as we have a close family friend who is a pastor. However, we’re both secular and he is working with us to make it more of a secular wedding.
Post # 6
@Wonderstruck: But that does help me understand my preconcieved notions about the order of ceremony of guess!
Post # 7
I’m pretty sure, not entirely positive, that in Ontario you can’t technically sign the license until AFTER you say certain parts of your vows. That’s why usually in the ceremony it comes after the vows. Just as an added FYI there are certain things and certain language that must be used in the ceremony for it to technically be legal too… The biggest part is “lawfully wedded wife/husband/partner”.
Our officiant is a United minister, although he’s performing a civil ceremony, the signing of the license is at the very end of the ceremony right before he presents us to our guests as “husband and wife”.
Post # 8
@Mulan05: Ahh! That helps clarify. It sounds like a very similar situation to ours!