(Closed) Order of invitations???

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What order should the invitations go out in?
    Bridal shower, then wedding : (1 votes)
    5 %
    Wedding, the bridal shower : (8 votes)
    36 %
    Who cares? : (13 votes)
    59 %
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    18643 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I have never heard of that before!  I would want to be invited to the wedding before the shower also so I don’t really understand her reasoning.

    Post # 4
    Member
    4765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

    That seems silly – I never would have even thought about it! If I had to pick an order, I actually think it makes more sense to get the wedding invitation first!

    Post # 5
    Member
    546 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    My wedding invites came a couple days, maybe a week before the shower invites were received in the mail.  I think it has a lot to do with when your shower is, in relation to the wedding.  I never thought it would be weird to get one before the other.  And it is kind of not her place to comment, so tell her to shush up!

    Post # 6
    Member
    837 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    That’s kind of surprising actually.  She has her etiquette backwards.  Most people if they are going to get offended would be offended that they got he SHOWER invitation first.  Though I do think that’s ridiculous as well, it at least makes a little more sense (the fact that they may not know if they are actually invited to the wedding, but are invited to a gift giving party).  Don’t worry about it, like I said from an etiquette standpoint, she has it backwards.  You were being way more etiquette conscious than most in sending your wedding invitations out prior to the shower invites.

    Post # 7
    Member
    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    We’re doing the wedding invites, followed a few days later by the next morning brunch invites and rehearsal dinner invites, followed about a week later by the shower invites.  Ahhh!  So many invitations!

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