Post # 1
OK, bees, help! I’ve been obsessing over this for far too long. Our invite is pretty traditional with my parents hosting, so the first line is “Drs. Dad and Mom Smith” (right now).
My FI’s father passed away 10yrs ago and his mother remarried, so under his name we currently have “son of Mr and Mrs. Mom and Stepdad Jones and the late Mr. Dad Parr”
Problem is: I think it’s supposed to be guy’s name before ladies in all the lines, but Fiance is pretty adamant that he wants it to be Mom before Stepdad on his line. So, do I leave my parents as Dad and Mom or flip them to match his, reading Drs. Mom and Dad instead?
Post # 3
PS – look how pretty! our invites, in non confusing form 🙂
Post # 4
I think this is a tough one because there are so many etiquette rules that make it really hard to fit your situation specifically. A lot of sites say that the deceased parent should not be included on an invitation but I can understand wanting to include that, I know I would want that. Also, for couples etiquette states that the man’s name comes first unless the woman has a professional title (like doctors etc). However once again this is a unique situation and he wants his moms name first. I think you have 2 options for naming his parents:
1) Son of Mr & Mrs Lawrence LastName, also the son of the late Mr Michael LastName (more traditional)
2) Son of Mrs & Mr Kathleen & Lawrence LastName, also the son of the late Mr Michael LastName (less traditional)
The complete proper etiquette rules would be to say:
Son of Mr & Mrs Lawrence LastName
I hope this helps!
Post # 5
Yes, it is TOTALLY a tough one. We aren’t really in proper-etiquette world anymore, but we have enough people who will expect proper etiquette that I’m trying to make it fit.
I know we’re already breaking the “only man’s name” rule, but it’s hard with his mother being his only true, living parent, and I’m thrilled to have my mom’s name on there.
I hadn’t thought of doing Mrs. and Mr. for his mom/stepdad, though, that’s another good idea.
Post # 6
Since your parents are both drs, I think it’s totally fine to put the woman’s name first. It might look a little odd to put Mrs. and Mr. for his parents though.
Or you could just do first names instead of using Mr. and Mrs. It’s less formal, but then it’s totally normal to put the woman’s name first.
Post # 7
For your parents, I’d leave it the way it is. It’s perfectly fine as is. Since your parents are both Dr’s you’ve indicated that & it’s all good. If you wanted to, you could write Dr. Dad and Dr. Mom – but I think separating them might indicate that your parents aren’t together.
I agree with piper for your in-laws though. I’d probably remove the proper title and just have “son of Katherine and Lawrence_________ and the late…”
I could be wrong, but check out some of the NYTimes wedding announcements, that’s usually how they do it.