(Closed) Order of Names – wording help!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
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87 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think this is a tough one because there are so many etiquette rules that make it really hard to fit your situation specifically. A lot of sites say that the deceased parent should not be included on an invitation but I can understand wanting to include that, I know I would want that. Also, for couples etiquette states that the man’s name comes first unless the woman has a professional title (like doctors etc). However once again this is a unique situation and he wants his moms name first. I think you have 2 options for naming his parents:

1) Son of Mr & Mrs Lawrence LastName, also the son of the late Mr Michael LastName (more traditional)

2) Son of Mrs & Mr Kathleen & Lawrence LastName, also the son of the late Mr Michael LastName (less traditional)

The complete proper etiquette rules would be to say:

Son of Mr & Mrs Lawrence LastName

 

I hope this helps!

Post # 6
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37 posts
Newbee

Since your parents are both drs, I think it’s totally fine to put the woman’s name first.  It might look a little odd to put Mrs. and Mr. for his parents though.

Or you could just do first names instead of using Mr. and Mrs.  It’s less formal, but then it’s totally normal to put the woman’s name first.

Post # 7
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1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

For your parents, I’d leave it the way it is. It’s perfectly fine as is. Since your parents are both Dr’s you’ve indicated that & it’s all good. If you wanted to, you could write Dr. Dad and Dr. Mom – but I think separating them might indicate that your parents aren’t together.

I agree with piper for your in-laws though. I’d probably remove the proper title and just have “son of Katherine and Lawrence_________ and the late…”

I could be wrong, but check out some of the NYTimes wedding announcements, that’s usually how they do it.

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