(Closed) Order of Toasts/Speeches

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m not sure it matters.  I think you can do whatever you want.  I think we’re doing Best Man, Maid of Honor, and then my parents.  We’re having the best man go first b/c we think he is going to do the best job of quieting down the crowd at the beginning and getting everyone to listen to him…

Post # 4
13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I don’t think it matters either but we are doing my dad, my Maid/Matron of Honor, and then our Bridesmaid or Best Man.  We wanted my dad to kick the speeches off as he is the host of the event (with my mom).  We figure my sister’s speech (MOH) will be pretty short and simple while based on what I’ve seen of our Bridesmaid or Best Man, his will be longer, more involved, etc.  We thought it would be better to not have my sister’s short, simple toast be last after two more in depth ones so we put her in the middle.

You just kind of have to think about your speakers and decide what works best for you! 

Post # 5
529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We did it Maid/Matron of Honor, Bridesmaid or Best Man, and then my husband’s Dad toasted (not planned ahead of time, just did it spur of the moment).

But I do have a bit of advice when deciding your toast orders.  At both my wedding, and the wedding I was a Maid/Matron of Honor at, the order went Maid/Matron of Honor toast, then Bridesmaid or Best Man toast, and at BOTH wedding, it was EXTREMELY OBVIOUS that the MOH’s had written carefully worded and thoughtful toasts and the Bridesmaid or Best Man just WINGED IT.  Having the MOH’s go first only made it even worse for the BMs because it just made it obvious they hadn’t thought about it beforehand.

So make sure your Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man KNOW they are doing toasts and encourage them to think of something beforehand and not to just wing it.  And if one of them IS winging it the day-of, maybe switch the order around so whoever’s winging it goes first and doesn’t look as bad.  😛

Post # 6
1927 posts
Buzzing bee

My dad went first as he was hosting so he welcomed everyone.  My Maid/Matron of Honor asked me to go first because she was nervous and she was concerned that if the Best Man gave a really good speech she wouldn’t want to follow : ).  Both speeches were equally lovely so the order worked out perfectly for us.

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