(Closed) Ordering the dress: too big on purpose?

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

My dress was huge on top but fit my hips.  Unfortunately, the dresses can’t be custom ordered from most designers so they do have to order to fix a certain part of your body that is the largest.

Post # 4
4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

Mine is WAY too big, but the consultant encouraged me to get a size up because it’s much easier to take the dress in than to let it out. 

Of course, I’m a dummy when it comes to stuff like alterations, so she could have totally fooled me. I ordered from DB, so it’s not like the measured me or anything. I’m sure if I would have ordered MY size that I usually wear it would have fit much better than the one I have! 🙁

Post # 5
1854 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Hmmm sounds odd…
When they ordered mine, they sent my measurements and when the dress came, it fit like a glove. All I had to do was length and bustle.
Maybe it depends on the store/designer?

Post # 6
1051 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

One of my BMs was basically forced to get a size bigger than she wanted for her dress based on her largest measurement, her hips.  BUT!!  The dresses they’re wearing are empire-waist and flow through the hip area.  Now she’s going to have to (pay to) take in the waist & bust for no reason.  I’m so mad at the store for bieng pushey bitches!  I think they ABSOLUTELY did it on purpose.

Post # 7
1765 posts
Buzzing bee

I wouldn’t be surprised if some places did that on purpose, cause they can charge a fortune for the alterations.  I would consider taking it to another reputable place to have alterations made.  🙂

Post # 8
5778 posts
Bee Keeper

They almost always go by the designers measurments for the suggested size to order. Sometimes you can insist they order it in the size you try on (if the fit is good or almost perfect), but it seems that many times brides do that because they say they’ll be losing weight if the dress is snug in any areas. Our bridal consultant had a lot of horror stories to tell about ordering dresses a bride insisted she wanted and how many times they had to rush order something bigger because the weight change never happened.

I ordered my dress bigger on purpose, but what happened is that with the alterations,it lost what I liked about it. An experienced seamstress with 40 years under her belt couldn’t make it better. That’s always a worry if the dress is ordered and is way too big.

I think it’s always better to have room to take it in than to not have enough fabric to let it out.

Post # 9
278 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Hmm, I’ve never even considered the possibility of upselling the alterations, but maybe I’m naive. It obviously depends on the store. Re twalila, my hips are always my biggest measurement, but my dress is an a-line, so my consultant told me it wouldn’t matter and we ordered off my waist measurement instead.

Sometimes it’s the manufacturer’s size charts that are off too. I ordered a Bill Levkoff Bridesmaid or Best Man dress once according to their size chart and I probably could have fit another one of me in there. All the other girls had that problem too.

I’m also assuming that stores are way more scared of brides getting way too tight dresses and not being able to do anything than they are of having to take a dress in.

Post # 10
1426 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I think it depends- did the dress fit you well anywhere else?  I know my dress will be huge through the hips and waist.  If I was ordering based on those measurements, I would have got two sizes below what I did.  But I had to fit the bust first, so that meant getting a dress that I knew would be too big everywhere else.

Post # 12
3613 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I know they order the dresses too big, whether they do it for the bride’s benefit (in case she gains weight) or to make money is dubious. Although some designer size charts are wacky too. I found out from my experience that it’s not always easy to take a dress in and can ruin the entire look. The “custom” measure was two sizes big on me, it didn’t fit my biggest part or anything, it was HUGE everywhere.

Post # 13
831 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My store measured me to compare it to a size chart (e.g. 33-26-36 equals a size 2, 35-30-28 equals a size 4, etc.) and ordered my dress according to their size chart. Since they don’t custom make dresses (e.g. via a pattern), alterations are required unfortunately unless you fill out that size perfectly.

Post # 14
683 posts
Busy bee

A friend once told me her boutique used to turn on the air conditioning in the fall to get people to buy sweaters.

I totally believe places would upsell alterations. I guess I would make it clear the staff that you would be going somewhere else for alterations or look for the sizing chart before you walk in the store.

Post # 15
40 posts

I do think some shops and consultants push you to get a larger dress so they can increase alteration cost.  I went to DB and they suggested I try on a few dress which seamed to big IMO.  When the cosnultant was busy with someone else I grabbed a dress two sizes smaller and it fit perfectly didn’t need any alterations.  She loved the dress on and didn’t say anything about suggesting the larger size. 

Post # 16
520 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Based on the chart for my Maggie dress, I’m a size 12 on the hips, size 10 on the chest, and between a size 6 and 8 on the waist.  I tried a size 10 at the store, and it was perfect on my hips but super loose on the waist and chest, so we ordered size 10.

Even though I’m planning on losing at least 10 lbs before my wedding day, there’s no guarantee that my hips will shrink 2 inches because of that.  So to be on the safe side, I ordered the size that fit my hips.  It’s always easier taking it in than letting it out.

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