Post # 1
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Newbee
Hi all, just wondering what everyones views are on a bride arranging her own bridal shower / hens do. Is it poor form? I know that traditionally this would be a Maid/Matron of Honor or BMs job, however as I am not having either a Maid/Matron of Honor or Bridesmaid or Best Man i’m wondering if it would be acceptable for a bride to organise these things herself. I’m opting for the bridal shower only due to not having a large circle of friends, not being a drinker, and very much disliking the idea or clubbing and/or strippers, so will be looking at a low key sort of family day spa thing. Thoughts?
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
smb892009: In the WB world organizing any wedding party for yourself is wrong!
Post # 3
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Honey bee
Depends. If you mean, by spa day, just girls hanging out, it sounds fine to invite people to that. If you are having a party where people bring you gifts, which is usually what a shower is, I will warn you that the Bees will not approve at all.
Post # 4
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Newbee
xstitchbride425: More-so meaning bride, MOB, MOG, GMOB, GMOG and a few select close friends having a glass of bubbles and getting a mini pedi together maybe on a saturday. Not a traditional full blown bridal shower with gifts so much as a hens that is being titled a bridal shower so people aren’t expecting it to be an alcohol fueled pink p***s every sort of affair.
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
smb892009: if you title it a bridal shower it comes across as gift grabby – and rightfully so. A shower is the only type of event where gifts are truly required. So yes it would be rude to throw your own. But you could plan a bridal luncheon or girls day out.
Post # 6
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Busy bee
I would avoid calling it a shower, and I think it’s okay to organise yourself as long as it’s not a gift-giving party i.e. not a shower. Where I am, you could call it a hens celebration and, as long as you are clear on what the activities will be, no one would think it’s strange.
Post # 7
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Newbee
carolinabelle: I like the ‘bridal luncheon’ idea; sounds much classier than a ‘hens’ and should get the point across nicely. Thanks for the suggestion 🙂
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
Bridal shower =gift-giving event, so you shouldn’t host a shower for yourself since you’d be essentially asking guests or gifts for yourself. You could just call it something else, state no gifts please, and make it a luncheon or spa day etc.
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
smb892009: I think it’s fine to organize a small get togethr to hang out with close friends and family. But I would think it’s odd to host your own shower where you’re opening gifts.