(Closed) Other people hitting on your partner/you

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

We don’t, no.  At least not every single time and usually not seriously, we usually do as a joke or in a joking manner–but then again, we do a lot of things in a joking manner.  I’d ask him to stop telling you every single time and rather ask him to do so if he thinks it may be a problem. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We usually do. Neither of us makes a point of it but it’s usually a funny story and nothing more. It doesn’t bother me or Fiance because we can’t control what other people do, just our reactions to them. I even had a guy attempt to kiss me (I guess he got the wrong idea because I was being friendly) and I told Fiance about it against the advice of my friends. We just don’t hide that kind of stuff because neither of us has done anything wrong. 

I can see not wanting to hear about these women hitting on him because he has a prior history with some of them. I don’t think I would be comfortable with as much as total strangers. 

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I can understand where you’re coming from, since I’ve felt the same in previous relationships. But trust me, I’ve worked in a hospital for years, and people will gossip about their coworkers constantly. If two people of the opposite sex are friendly to each other at all, even if it means just gossiping in the hall for five minutes, rumors are bound to start flying.

That being said – I actually love it when my Fiance tells me he gets hit on. Like I said, in previous relationships I hated it, but I love it with my Fiance now. Sometimes he’s self concious over the weight he wants to lose, and I know getting hit on is an ego boost. But I also know that he would never flirt back, and he always tells these girls about his “amazing fiance” when they hit on him.

 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m usually the one that tells my fiance when someone has been hitting on HIM XD  Since he never notices, thats one of the things I love about him  🙂 He is polite but its clear to everyone around him that he is not interested in any girl that isn’t me.  I’ll tell him exactly what happens when a guy hits on me and we enjoy a growl at said person and reaffirming that we are each other’s only ones and no one else is ever going to be good enough hehe

 

However in your man’s position it seems to be highly inappropriate due to the history he has with a lot of people there o.o

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

this reminds me of a friend I had. she and her bf were in a long distance relationship, and one night we went out to a party. Well this guy started dancing with her, not even grinding or sexy or even TOUCHING her, nor did she move away or end it. the next day she was like “omg, that guy was dancing with me!! I have to be honest and tell BF” my friend and I who went to the party said “why? it’s not cheating, it’s just going to cause drama…” but no she was adamant that she wanted no secrets and everything in the open. well sure enough when she told him, he blew it out of proportion, she went on the defensive, and it caused a ton of drama. Surprise, surprise!
 I don’t like it, only because it would make me jealous, lol.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My H is kind of insecure, so I normally don’t tell him. It doesn’t serve any constructive purpose and only upsets him, so I don’t see the point

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Steampunk Angel:  Lol same here! Girls AND guys hit on FH and afterward when I tell him about it he gets all embarrassed but he seriously can’t tell. No game at all 🙂

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We do.

It happened a lot more when we were in college, buy yeah, we always told each other. To me, it was just part of being open and honest and treating each other as our best friend. I would occasionally get mad at the girl if she crossed a line, but that wasn’t directed at him. And its not like we were bragging! More of, “so, this happened today…”

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We usually do, but in a light hearted way, not serious.

Last year we were on vacation in Myrtle Beach, and were not expecting cold waether so we had to go to Old Navy to get warm clothes. Anyway, we cashed out seperately, but I was right behind him in line. The check out girl must not have realized that we were together, and was trying to flirt outrageously with Fiance. I just found it really fnny especially because when he was done he didn’t walk away, just stayed by me and I gave him a big kiss. She must have felt pretty stupid

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Ellegee:  XD Nice!!!  It’s great too because once this girl was hardcore flirting and he blew her off without even knowing he was doing it, this was all right in front of me when she knew who I was to him.  She was so mad!  Does it make me a horrible person to say I enjoyed that? hehe

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We do, like @nutMeg13, say, in a light-and funny kind of way.

I like knowing that other women find my Fiance desireable, because I think he is.  And he says he likes hearing about guys hitting on me for the same reason: because I’m desireable and entirely his and his alone. 

We see it as a compliment.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@KittyKatz:  it sounds like the hospital is in desperate need of some boundaries.  To me, that’s a human rights/haraasment case waiting to happen.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Ivorybuttons:  I agree with this too 🙂  I like showing off my man and knowing none of those women will ever have him mwahaha ;D

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