- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2016
Okay, so I’m having troubles finding some special roles for 2 of my best friends. Some background first:
I have 3 good girlfriends who I always imagined being my bridesmaids whenever I got married. Well, now one of them isn’t as close anymore- we’ve struggled the past few years, so I don’t feel like she should be in the wedding party anymore. We also decided to slash our guest list in half and have a more intimate wedding, with only our closest friends and family attending. We weren’t going to have a wedding party, but my Fiance would really like a best man, so we will now be having 1 on each side. The problem is, trying to choose a Maid/Matron of Honor. I was going to choose one of my 2 girlfriends, but as the time has gone on I just felt weird picking between the two- they will be there to help me through this next year and I don’t want to put one above the other.
A few people suggested I just ask both, but I will be blatantly leaving the 3rd not so close friend out, and I know that will create some drama (even if it didn’t, I wouldn’t want to make her feel that way, whether we’re close or not). I also just don’t want 2 people on my side.
So I’ve now been thinking of asking my aunt to be my Maid/Matron of Honor, and thinking of other roles for the other 2 girls (I don’t think the third girl will have an issue with this- she doesn’t even live in the same city and is very career focused right now anyways). The reason I’m struggling, is I don’t like the roles of guest book attendant, ushers, etc, so I’m trying to think of other things that are important.
I thought of having 1 friend be in the ceremony in some way, maybe doing a reading and being the “ring bearer”, being in the part of the ceremony with the rings (our officiant is very open to anything we want to do/change), and having my second friend do a speech, as she’s very nostalgic and I think she would love to tell stories about us when we were kids.
Does anyone else have any other ideas of roles they could do? I’m not totally settled on the roles above and just want some non biased opinions!