(Closed) Other women flirting with your SO?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Hyperventilate:  +1

I think its funny when ladies flirt with my SO cause he’s MINE.

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

None of my friends have ever flirted with my SO, aand we wouldn’t be friends if they did. That being said, my SO is extremely friendly and will talk with anyone and everyone. A lot of girls think that if a guy is talking to them, then he’s flirting/interested. If I’m with him he’ll come kiss me or whatever if a girl is getting to be too much, if I’m not there he’ll make it clear that he has a gf. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t (we all know those girls who love a challenge) at which point he extricates himself from the situation. 

At a party at his friend’s house last summer, he was doing his social butterfly thing and a girl actually tried to pull him into a bathroom with her. I mean, sheesh, some ladies have no shame.

Post # 34
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Thankfully two of my best friends are his two sisters…so I’ve never had that problem!  But 4 or 5 years ago when we were at a music festival I was passed out sleeping in our tent and this girl who was a friend of a friend and camping with us was super flirting with him, I mean like sitting on his knee, giggling, flicking her hair etc etc (I know cos there’s photos & videos and she was acting like that, minus the sitting on him, the following day).  I was so mad!!!

Post # 35
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Oops, double post!

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

What awful friends! Thats so tacky. Undecided

Women flirting with my husband NEVER goes over well. I find it disrespectful and I have no problem telling the woman that infront of everyone.

Post # 37
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

My fiance is very friendly, and naturally flirty and charming.  This is a very good thing, since I am shy, introverted, and couldn’t flirt if my life depended on it, so one of us had to be or we would never have met!

He does get flirted with fairly frequently. When we first started dating, it did bother me.  But after 4 years I know I can trust him, so I don’t panic if he doesn’t immediately run screaming from every pretty girl who bats their eyes at him, or even when he’s charming back to said girl.  Don’t we all get an ego boost when an attractive stranger shows us some attention? I know he’ll be right back by my side in a few minutes for some snuggling and a kiss, that it’s me he’ll be going home with (via Del Taco), and it’s me who has his heart.

Although if it were friends of mine, and it was happening frequently, yeah, I’d have something to say about that.  Like “Back off, Ho-Bag, or I’ll throw ya a beatin’!”
 

Post # 38
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@peonyinparis:  I’m curious – you say that western girls are less agressive than asian girls? I thought it would be the other way around.

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@lilsweetie:  I think Asian girls who date white guys tend to be more aggressive than your typical Asian girl. At least in my experience.

I’ve never seen anyone I know flirt with my Fiance once we started dating. There were two girls in the past who I’m sure had crushes on him (this is just before we started dating officially; when we were in the flirting stage ourselves). Oddly enough both girls were dating good friends of his. They couldn’t have him for themselves but disapproved heavily of him dating me.

Once we were in a 7-11 at two in the morning and this super drunk chick stumbled up to him (I was at the cash register) and said “Hey, you have a really cute ass!” Afterwards when he told me about it I jokingly threated to go back and “cut her,” which made him laugh because I am 5’1″ and a total klutz and can barely cut inanimate vegetables.

Post # 40
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@lilsweetie:  This sounds like stereotyping, but there are actually so many (local) Chinese girls who are in the market for a white bf/husb for (often misguided) reasons including but not limited to: social status, money, green card. And when it comes to bagging a foreigner bf in China, there’s like a zillion local girls to one white guy, so I suppose they kind of have to be aggressive! They also tend to be quite aggressive when it comes to wanting to get serious straight away – marriage, house, car, gifts etc. 

@faeriehazel:  Re Asian girls/white guys, that’s been my experience too – at least in Asian countries, not so much girls of Asian ethnicity who grow up in Western countries (i.e., me – I’m very much the opposite of aggressive when it comes to the opposite sex!)

Post # 41
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@peonyinparis:  Don’t worry, it doesn’t sound like stereotyping to me. It’s just your experience and also @faeriehazel: ‘s experience. I was curious because I love sociology and psychology and my own experience with Asian women in general is that they are very mild and much less aggressive, but it’s probably different in Asia than N America too. One thing I have heard about is the aggressive driving lol.

Do you see it as the same way for white women in Asia? Are they much more sought after too by the asian guys?

Post # 42
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@lilsweetie:  I think I’m one of those aggressive Asian lady drivers, ha!

Some of my male friends (including ones that grew up in the U.S. but then returned to China for work) are actually really reluctant to get into relationships with ‘local’ Chinese girls. They get a really bad rap for being materialistic, demanding and generally difficult to deal with. There was the recent instance of a girl on a Chinese dating show, who famously quipped “I’d rather cry in a BMW than laugh on the back seat of a bicycle.” It’s not uncommon girls here to ask on a first date: how much do you earn? where did you study? how many properties do you have? If you’re interested, this and this give a good analysis on the sociology of dating and marriage in China.

As for foreign girls living in China, it’s maybe the most difficult place in the world to find a man! I know a couple of white girls who have dated local guys, but could never culturally assimilate enough to marry one. To be honest I think most Chinese guys find white women to be a bit of a novelty, fun to hang out with but they are still quite traditional about who they want to marry. And if you’re a white girl in China looking for a white boyfriend, it’s a really small and difficult pool to be in!

 

Post # 43
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@lilsweetie:  As @peonyinparis:  said, Asian girls can be VERY aggressive and demanding, although at the same time they try to be girly and sweet (on the surface anyway, haha). The culture in Korea puts a lot of value on appearances, so girls here get a lot of plastic surgery done and go into debt in order to buy Chanel bags.

I do feel sorry for a lot of the white girls in Korea because they are definitely not as popular as the white boys. I feel like a lot of the problems come from the fact that many Korean men feel intimidated by white women. Korean people tend to smaller physiques, for one, and the ideal Korean beauty is always tiny and slim.

Post # 44
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Newbee

my solution to that problem was to stop hanging out with such ‘friends’  🙂

super annoying when they go ahead and plan random events like a weekday night of dancing in the city and make my bf the designated driver… then spout out all this guilt trip stuff about ‘never getting to hang out anymore’ because im with bf all the time

ugh.

glad things are so much better now 🙂

Post # 45
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Yes and it ticks me off SO bad!  LOL!  My husband works in healthcare, so it’s mostly coworkers and patients and I cannot stand that!

Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Clearly I am in the minority here. I love it when women flirt with my Darling Husband. He gets an extra boost of confidence, which I find incredibly sexy. And I love that rush of adreneline I get from feeling territorial over my man.

When women flirt with my man, it usually just means a really good night for me.

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