Post # 1
I never put much thought into this until FMIL mentioned it. And she mentioned it again to FBIL so I thought I would ask the hive.
What’s the dealio with Groom’s dad and his attire matching the wedding party?
FI’s mom thought that his dad should wear a black suit too (like the wedding party) and a red tie like the FI. FI and RBs are the only ones wearing a red tie and that’s kinda the way I want to keep it. Then she mentioned to FBIL that maybe he(FFIL) should be wearing a green tie like the groomsmen are.
I don’t have a problem buying him a tie too. But my thought is isn’t that why the wedding party is the wedding party? They look different? If I get FFIL a tie to match the wedding party should I get them for my brothers too? Then they will all look like they are party of the wedding party???
Post # 3
we’ve decided that FI is wearing beige suit, white shirt, champagne tie. GM are wearing beige pants, white, shirt light aqua/sage ties, no jacket. my dad is wearing a beige suit too (not the same one) but i bought him a tie that better matches my moms brown dress. so he matches the look but does not appear to be a gm. since he is walking me down the aisle he should look like he belongs. FI’s dad has passed away so we don’t have to worry about dressing 2 dads.
i would say that he shouldnt wear a red tie (thats like the moms wearing the same color as the maids) but wear a complimentary color.
Post # 4
What is your dad wearing? Maybe he can match him. I had my wedding party in black tuxes. THen the GMs wore vests to match the Bms and my husband wore a white vest to match me. My father was in a black tux with a grey vest and tie. DH’s dad would have been in the same, but he didn’t care to wear a tux. And we didn’t care.
Post # 5
All of the men will have black tuxes. My FH will be in a black tux with a white vest, GMs will have green vests, and the fathers will have black vests. Our ushers will just be in black suits, cause we don’t want them to have to go buy something else (I really want them in black suits with black shirts and a white tie).
Post # 6
I don’t think it’s uncommon to have the fathers wearing something matching of the wedding party. The wedding I was just in, the Father of the Bride wore the same suits and ties as the groomsmen. We didn’t do that for my wedding, only because my Dad didn’t want to wear a suit, haha. I don’t think your brothers need to match though! But if your dads do, that’s okay! 🙂
Post # 7
Well we’re doing tuxes not suits but the dads are also wearing tuxes that do not match the wedding party. My FI is wearing one tux and the GM are wearing a different style tux. They’ll all have black vests and gold ties and FI’s flower will match mine while the GM’s flower will match the BMs.
The dad’s each picked their own style tux that is different from both FI’s and the GM’s. They are choosing vests and ties that coordinated with my mom’s and my FMIL’s dresses.
I think you should have you dads in black suits like the wedding party but have them wear ties that coordinate with your mom and FMIL (not matching either your FI or the GM). That way they look like they belong / fit in but aren’t matchy-matchy and don’t actually look like they could be a part of the wedding party.
Post # 8
Ideally I would like the “fathers” to be in black suits and ties that coordinate with the mothers. because you’re right that way it looks like they are someone special because they are! But I don’t really want them in teh same colors as the wedding party!
My father passed away years ago so my eldest brother will be walking me down the aisle. He had asked me what I wanted him to wear and I reply anything you want. But I guess I should say black suit since he will be walking me down the aisle.
I had suggested to FMIL that FFIL wear a tie that coordinates with her dress and that’s when she brought up that shouldn’t he wear red like my FI.
I would prefer if FI was the only one in red so I would push for that. But it’s not a huge deal if they are in green ties as well because I’m getting the GM pocket squares as well.
Darn it! Had I thought of this earlier I could’ve shared S+H. Sigh.
Post # 9
We are having the groomsman in black vest/orange tie. the ushers in black vest/black tie, and the dads both match the ushers.