Post # 1
How much weight do you put on others’ opinions when dress shopping? I know mine is the most important (since it’s MY dress), but honestly, if my mother or sister didn’t like my dress, I’d have a hard time getting it.
I’m just having so much trouble with dress shopping… I’m not sure how to be. I suspect I’m even at the point that I won’t let myself like something because I’m afraid someone else important to me might not care for it.
Post # 3
I only took my Mom along while shopping, so I would suggest only taking one or two people with. When you have too many voices it can get confusing. Get a good idea before shopping what everyone’s expectations are and let them know what you want too so they are not surprised. This is your wedding and in a perfect world everyone would love your dress, but if you fall in love with something they should accept this and see how happy it makes you.
My mom wanted me in a dress that showed off my figure, but I knew i wanted a ball gown with a big skirt. I found my dream dress and was able to get my Mom to cry even though it was not what she wanted me to wear.
Good luck and do not worry too much, this is supposed to be a fun experience!
Here is my dress (Mori Lee 4969):
Post # 4
@emmanneliza: Have you gotten negative responses from the people you’ve brought with you? Or are you just worried you will?
Post # 5
When I went dress shopping the dress I liked at the time, my Mom didn’t like and my Grandma was leukwarm about it. So I didn’t end up picking that dress although sometimes I still think I should have. More than a year after the wedding I still have dress regret. I’m happy to be married and we had a wonderful day, so it’s not all bad.
Post # 6
I think by the time I found my dress, my mother was just relieved and happy that I was happy.
Id been back and forth so many times, she was just glad it wasnt some God awful color with a non-existent neckline. Lol!
Post # 7
I did have an issue with Bridesmaid or Best Man confusion. I realized I was placing too much stock into what they liked, and decided to pick and just not tell them what I was going with until they’re helping me put it on.
Post # 8
When I went dress shopping, I brought people who I knew would have opinions, but who were also in tune with my personal style and would be able to appreciate why I liked a dress, even if they did not.
I was lucky–the dress I picked, everyone loved. But there were certainly a few dresses that I tried on where everyone seemed to have different opinions.
Post # 9
I’ve found it helpful to just go try on dresses by myself a few times. There’s no pressure, no opinions, no drama. Just me, a consultant, and a dress. I found a dress that I love during one of my solo outtings and today a friend is going to join me at the salon to see it.
Post # 10
None. Which is one of the reasons I only had one person at my appointment and zero at the others. It will be nice if they like it but at the end of the day, I’m the one wearing it, I’m the one looking at it forever in pictures so I should be the one to love it first and foremost. Luckily, our tastes are all very similar so I know when my mom sees it she’ll love it but that hasn’t influenced me. She hates red nail polish but I love it, doesn’t stop me from rocking it cause I know she really just cares about me, not what’s on me.
Post # 11
@teeandtee: You look amazing!! Just beautiful. (And that dress has POCKETS!! Love.) Your advice is wonderful as well. Thank you.
@peachacid: You bring up a good point that I hadn’t considered. It is possible I’m anticipating negative responses, and that’s certainly one way to drive yourself mad. My sister has pointed out a few features of dresses that she doesn’t like; features that didn’t bother me… but once she points them out, that’s all I can see. She’s never been negative at all, but I’m very impressionable.
Post # 12
I can understand where your coming from. When I started dress shopping I brought 4 people with me, the day I found my dress it was just my mom and I. Like the other bee’s have said … too many people = too many opinions which = confusion. Have fun with it and remember to keep an open mind. You might surprise yourself and fall in love with a dress you thought you would never like!
Post # 13
I would let others opinions weigh on me. For that reason I went the first time by myself and the second time with my mom and dad. My maid of honor thought that was weird but I didn’t want the whole entourage telling me what I should like.
Post # 14
My mom essentially picked my dress. I had it narrowed down to two, but she made it clear which she preferred and I went with that one.
Post # 15
I value other people’s opinions a lot, and it’s not easy for me to do something without everyone’s blessing. It’s not so much a conformity issue as putting too much trust in others. (“If BM#3 thinks it hugs my bust too much, she must be right!” “I don’t know why Mom thinks it’s too gaudy, but she must be seeing something I’m not seeing!”)
That’s why I’m planning on bringing very few people with me when I go to try on dresses. (Haven’t yet. ;)) Right now I only have one on my list. My sister, who is an artist/animator and is very good at seeing what does and doesn’t flatter my body, but doesn’t really care what my dress looks like. I might bring my fashion-savvy Maid/Matron of Honor. Maybe. I’m not even bringing my mom. My taste is pretty traditional, so I know she’ll like whatever I pick, but I’m fairly certain that if she sees every dress I try on, she’ll pick a favorite and will be bitter if I don’t choose it. I think it’s best to keep things simple for her (and myself). 🙂
Post # 16
My mom’s opinion was very important to me. I don’t think I could have bought a dress she didn’t like.