(Closed) Ouch

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1417 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@raye9289:  Guys are idiots. Simple as that. I completly went threw the same thing about a week ago! He kept asking me what was wrong, I told him, He told me stop rushing him( which it had NOTHING to do with him proposing to me! ) I was crushed just like you said you are.

  It hurts but seriously i’m convinced they have NO idea what comes out of there mouth. I started telling my SO to say it in his head 5 times before you say it to me( if it has to do with weddings/ ering stuff like that) because usually he doesn’t mean what came out and I usually take it for what he said( if that makes any sense LOL)

 HUGS!!!!!!

Post # 5
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336 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Ladies, my SO does the same thing. I’ll hear about someone getting engaged or he’ll bring something up that makes me think it will never happen, so i’ll get quiet and then the battle starts of what is wrong with me. and he says the EXACTLY same things as your guys man. So I feel you!! Men don’t think!!!

Post # 6
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6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

@raye9289:  Wait…you’ve been together three years and he’s made you promise that you won’t bring up marriage?! 

Post # 7
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486 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Why do they ask what’s wrong if they don’t really want to know? That’s what baffles me. It’s not that I don’t want to tell him what’s wrong, it’s that I know he’ll get upset by it and it’s better if only one of us is upset than both lol I’ve told him before that sometimes he just needs to drop things even if I seem upset, and sometimes he does. But then I wish he pried more lol So I can’t completely blame men for being confused lol

And this is more of a rant, but sometimes after I tell him what I’m upset about (like if he hurt my feelings) he’ll turn it around on me and start being upset with ME! Like what just happened? lol And sometimes it feels like he does that on purpose so he doesn’t get blamed for stuff lol

Example: me- “I spent hours getting ready tonight just the way you like it and you haven’t complimented me once” him- “I always look good for you!” or “what, you don’t think I look good?”

Post # 8
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486 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

p.s: lmao at your tags: “brain disorders” lol

Post # 9
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1722 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Ugh i feel ya, I promissed FI to stop talking about an E-Ring because he can’t afford it yet and I was doing SO good not talking about it and then other people bring it up and it upsets me and then he wants to know what it wrong.  Ugh its so annoying but at least my FI is understanding when other people bring it up.  Maybe you can mention to him that what he said hurt and that you were trying not to bring it up and he has to give you some credit for that.

Post # 10
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598 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@raye9289:  :'(

At least Rizzoli and Isles is on to keep you company! 

Post # 11
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25 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I am not waiting bee, haven’t been ever but I like to lurk this broad as well.

 

Personally I don’t understand why it seems to be so big “no-no” subject for some men to talk about engagement and marriage in the relationship. Like you can do onyl one little conversation and then you must remain silence until he proposes?

It is ok to talk about moving in togehter, buying house together, buying a car, making babies but marriage BOOM no no!?!? I think all the big steps you are about to take together should be well planned and discussed. I understand that nagging about marriage and engagement constantly could be annoying. I wouldn’t like to talk about making a baby 24/7 either. But every now and then ithere shouldn’t be a problem….

 

Sorry I don’t have any wise words to you raye but this just made me wonder why some men are like this… And you told during 3 year relationship you have talked about engagement TWICE! My god that is not a lot at all!!! and what is so bad to talk about that according to your boyfriend?

Post # 12
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383 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Men can be silly sometimes…  

If I’m feeling down about wedding/engagement related things and SO notices, I warn him “It’s wedding stuff” before I elaborate.

Most of the time he is more than willing to talk about it, but of course sometimes he doesn’t.  On those occasions he just hugs me and says “Soon!” and we talk about other things, and I save my rants for posting on here or talking to my girlfriends.

Maybe you could try warning him beforehand?  And it helps to remember that guys don’t worry about this stuff like we do (:

Post # 13
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449 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Kat_Kit2000:  I think they do it because they don’t want us to see them as insensitive jerks..but then, of course, the whole thing backfires when we tell them what’s wrong and they wind up looking like idiots anyway…it’s the sad, sad male circle of life O_o

Post # 14
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449 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Britk:  BAHAHAHA! “It’s wedding stuff”…I’ll hafta start using that one too!

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