- 3 months ago
Hello mama bees!
I’m a FTM to an amazing 3.5 week old girl, and I’m determined to breastfeed her. The problem is that, while one nipple is doing pretty well with it now that I’ve had time to adjust, the other is fairly consistently agony. It’s got a, impressive crack, and despite treating it with some special nipple cream (includes anti-fungal and all that good stuff), visiting lactation consultants, and doing what I can to try to correct her latch if it doesn’t appear to be right, I can’t seem to make it better. There will be times when I can feed on the ‘bad’ side and it will go well enough, but the next feeding will then come with toe-curling pain, and my nipple just doesn’t seem to have a chance to heal.
It does seem like her latch is what is causing problems… which is odd because only one of my nipples is getting mangled. I can get her positioned well initially, but on both sides she will keep unlatching — either fully coming off or else losing suction and re-establishing while still on the nipple. For the former, she gives me progressively smaller mouth openings to work with, which seems to yield shallower subsequent attempts. For the latter, she gradually becomes shallower with each re-establishment, and each time I hear that increasingly-dreaded *click* I have to brace myself for immediate pain.
The lactation consultant said she has a minor lip tie, and that it might be the reason behind her latching issues, but maybe not. I took my daughter to her pediatrician who said the same. Each said I could take her to a pediatric dentist to do a revision to the tie that shouldn’t hurt her, but that they don’t particularly recommend or suggest against it, since her tie is minor and it might not help. My daughter seems to be good at getting milk and is gaining weight well, so I’m iffy about doing what might be an unecessary procedure. Right now, I don’t really know what else to try… but what if it accomplishes nothing? And if one nipple is coping just fine, is the lip tie actually a problem?
I just don’t know what to do. I’m starting to get discouraged. I’m starting to feel like there aren’t any solutions that will actually do anything, which I hate because I so want to make this work. I love that I can provide for her like this and I want to see it through, but I don’t know if I can put up with the pain that comes with it. I can’t help but think that if only my ‘bad’ nipple had a chance to heal it would work out, since one side is just fine.
Help? Advice? Similar stories?
ETA: I have toyed around with nipple shields with little luck. Honestly, it didn’t seem to work well or to prevent pain.