(Closed) Ouch…. (please help)

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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3521 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

You tell her you’re sorry for all that she’s going through. If her husband is, in fact, emotionally and verbally abusive, she’s better off without him. You need to overlook this perceived slight and be there for your friend. I’m sorry you’re hurt, but maybe she wasn’t thinking straight and thought the other guy was the best person to go to. There are a hundred possible reasons as to why she went to him first. Until you hear it from her, try not to make any assumptions.

Post # 4
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3255 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Give her the benefit of the doubt when she calls you. Maybe she’s just kind of freaking out and has been letting it soak in. It’s only a littler after noon, so maybe she’ll call you soon. ..

When she calls, just let her vent before you offer anything so you can feel out the situation and how much you really want to get involved.

Post # 6
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3255 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Sorry. 🙁 How did she respond when you told her you were disappointed about your coworker talking to her first?

Post # 7
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181 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

You need to put your feelings out of it. This is happeneing to her and you need to be there for her completely. 

Forget that you introduced them that doesn’t matter. If it wasnt him it would have been another guy. She sounds like she has terrible self-esteem to stay in an abusive reltionship. 

Eventually something would have snapped to push her to leaving or forcing him to leave. 

It sounds like you are being really supportive but just dont mention anything about being disappointed or slighted about who learned which piece of gossip first. She is probably a mess and also embarrased. 

So just have open arms for her and remember to put yourself in her shoes whenever you feel yourself getting angry. 

Post # 10
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891 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

maybe these 2 are in love?  i say good for them and leave her alone.  be happy for her.  

 

i mean yea, it’d be nice if she would have given you a status about things but no one is really themself when they’re on cloud 9, we’ve all been there. i hope it works out with them.  i don’t normally condone cheating but this is one of those situations where i do and it could possibly end up being a very nice story (they leave their asshole spouses and marry each other and live happily ever after:)

 

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