Post # 137
I already told the family that they will NOT call her Ellie. If they don’t call her Elektra then they won’t see her.
When the family started complaining about our name choice and started talking about how they could call her other things I told the family this, “She is going to be Elektra Nicole. She is to be called Elektra. Not Nicole, not Nikki, not Ellie, just Elektra. There are no nicknames for Ryddik so there will be no nicknames for her. If you don’t like it then tough. My baby, my decision.” When the kids get older they can decide what they want to go by but until they can make that decision then no one is to call them anything but their names. I have to keep getting on the DH’s grandparents for calling our son Paul. Just because that is his middle name doesn’t mean they can call him that. I have told them that one of the reason we never go see them is becuse we don’t want him getting confused. Last time we were there they kept saying Paul and looking at him and he gave me a look like, “are they talking to me?” THe poor boy didn’t know what was going on. He will be 2 next month and has never been called anything but Ryddik because I correct anyone who tries to change it. It will be the same way with our daughter. Almost every person I know with a unique name is very creative and has a way of looking at things that most people don’t see. They are very successful even with different names. Just because someone’s name is different doesn’t mean they will be passed over for a job. There are many famous people who changed their names to have something unique so they could be remembered. When I told my side of the family they thought of all the cool jobs they could imagine someone with that name doing and not a single person thought of a stripper. There are different views on everything and I just wanted to know what other’s would think of it so I would be prepared for when I told my in laws and could have a good reply ready without getting hormonal.
Post # 138
“we didn’t want anything that could be shortened into a nickname”
@bride21: I can think of quite a few nicknames for your kids name. For instance, I can see the kids at school calling him “Dikk” & I can see your daughter’s name being shortned to “E”, “Elle”, “Elie” or “Lectra”. That said, I kind of like the names though. I don’t think I’d use them, but I like them.
Post # 139
So I normally just keep my mouth shut when I don’t love someone’s baby name, because I don’t want to ruin it for them. I like non-conventional names and usually when I don’t love a name it is beacuse of initials that spell a.s.s. or b.j. or it’s a name I see kids being teased over in school.
And I’ll be honest, I really like Ryddik.
But as for Elektra, maybe my husband tainted me about a lot of female names from when we were considering baby names ourselves, but in his words “it sounds like a stripper name.” I like how it is non-conventional, yet easy to pronounce off a roll sheet, but it doesn’t sound like a powerful unique name to me as much as a candy name or stage name. Don’t get me wrong, this is just my own opinion, and you can name her whatever feels right to you.
I think you should start a new thread and make it a contest. Say you are looking for a unique name for your baby girl and can anyone beat Elektra Nicole. Granted, you might not like any of the suggestions, but you also might get a gem in there. Worst case senario, you keep the name that you already like.
Post # 140
My DH has always gone by a crazy nickname. It kinda shaped what he ended up doing in life – he’s a radio DJ/booking agent. No one calls him by his real name. And it’s a name that’s much more Elektra – think Slash from Guns N Roses or something like that. It fits him. People always want to send wedding invites to his real name but honestly, if you are a close friend, you know that he never, ever goes by it. His “real” name is a name that’s reserved for utility bills and telemarketers.
And if Elektra or Ryddik really hates their name when they are older, I’m sure they will insist on being called something else.
Post # 141
I am surprised to see people so against the name Elektra. I went to school with an Electra so my first association with the name is with that girl, who was very serious, intelligent, and quiet so I always think of someone with that name having those qualities. I guess personal associations are really strong, I really like the name because I was friends with the girl growing up and thought she was an interesting person.
Post # 142
Love this idea! 😉
I really wasn’t going to chime back in on this, but it seems like a big part of your decision is that they won’t have a nickname. Just because you’re able to control that when they’re babies means nothing. I have a unique name, and I personally like going by my ENTIRE name (which is only 6 letters). This has not stopped EVERYONE I KNOW including my family giving me a series of different nicknames. I really only get called by my “real” name at work. I can go days without hearing my real name. Just my two cents.
Post # 143
@bride21: “I already told the family that they will NOT call her Ellie. If they don’t call her Elektra then they won’t see her.”
Really? Ouch…I would never keep my or DH’s family from seeing their grandchild unless her mental or physical safety was at risk.
Post # 144
Whoa, I missed that post about keeping the child from her family unless they call her by her full name. Very mature. OP, I think it might be a good idea to start thinking about the actual well-being of your children instead of just giving them “cool” names. Keeping them from their family for such a petty reason is increadibly childish.
Post # 145
Elektra makes me think of the Electra Complex…eek.
Post # 146
I really wish you’d kept the “i” in Riddick/Riddik. People are going to see the “Ryd”, and try to pronounce it like Ryan/Ryder rather than “Rid” as in riddle, turning it into “ride dick” when spoken aloud.
But I’d rather name all of my children Ryddik than name any of them Elektra. All I can think of is the “Electra Complex.” Please, please educate yourself on what that is. Do you really want people to be making wisecracks of a Woody Allen variety about your daughter and husband that way?! (If I were the child’s father, it would make me super, super uncomfortable to have my daughter be named that.)
Have you considered “Elhayim” from Xenogears, or “Saffron” like from Firefly (Yes, I know, unsavory character but she was clever, and the name is also the name of a spice)? I feel like even Harley Quinn would be better than Elektra.
Post # 147
I’m sorry, but Electra is a classic example of a stripper name. Linguistic research indicates that humans make subconscious decisions about people based on their names and your daughter is going to have a lifetime of psychological associations with the Electra complex.
Not only that but it’s also spelled nontraditionally – I recognize that it’s the comic spelling, but technically it’s incorrect from the traditional mythological spelling. Again, research indicates that nontraditionally-spelled names may induce hiring managers, etc, to assume a person has a lower education level despite their actual acheivements. That is the sort of thing you are dooming your child to.
I also hate to point this out, but you are going to be powerless to police your kid’s nicknames. Period.
Post # 148
Just because someone is named Elektra doesn’t mean she is going to have a strange attachment to her father. Anyone who thinks that needs to realize that not everything works that way. Just because you give a girl a boy’s name doesn’t mean they will be a tom-boy or turn into a lesbian does it? No. And a boy given a girls name won’t always turn out to be a “sissy” or become gay. It’s the same basic thing. Just because a name has a different conotation doesn’t mean it will affect the child who has it that way.
Greek name Translation Latin spelling
ELEKTRA (or Electra) was the Okeanid Nymph wife of the sea god Thaumas, and the mother of Iris the Rainbow and the storm-wind Harpyiai (Harpies). There are numerous spellings for it. You can’t say one is right and one is wrong. Greeks didn’t have a hard “C” so actually a “K” is what they used but the Latin translation changed it to a “C”. Also, I can “police” their nicknames until they are old enough to decide what to be called themselves. If people don’t like the name then they don’t have to see her. That’s the end of it. DH feels the same. He wants her to be called Elektra because that is her name. Also, it is not a “stripper” name. There are a lot of people I know who were strippers at one time and all their names were something like a type of candy or something to make a guy “drool.” She is not going to have problems just because of what some people think. It is going to be how she is raised that matters,
I have only had one person try to pronounce it ride-dick and that includes all the doctors and nurses who have read his name when he went in for his check-ups and at the hospital both when he was born and when I took him there for his pneumonia. He is almost 2 and in all that time only 1 person has said it wrong. That’s not bad IMO. And I know what the electra complex is, though I hadn’t ever heard of it until I started this. I knew such a thing exsisted but didn’t know the name but that’s not going to change anything. We are going to teach her the good and fun meanings behind her name and ignore anything bad people say about it.
Post # 149
“She is not going to have problems just because of what some people think.”
You can say that to yourself all you like, but social science research strongly implies the exact opposite.
You might do a grand job of raising her, but professors and hiring managers don’t know that. They will look at her name and make a snap association with a creepy psychological concept of a woman in love with her father – and they’ll wonder what kind of family she came from.
Post # 150
Not everyone thinks of that. Even people with an education don’t think of that. Just because you do doesn’t mean everyone will. Besides, there are a lot of people giving their kids unusual names now so who’s to say it isn’t considered common in 20 years when she will be looking for a better job than fast food or whatever it is she starts out with? You don’t know what is going to happen in the future. Stop saying it WILL happen. It MIGHT happen but there is no guarantee that it will. I wanted people’s oppinions on the name itself but I don’t want people telling me that I’m dooming my children or acting the fortune teller. Anything is possible so I know the kids MIGHT have a hard time with certain things but they MIGHT become famous for something or the MIGHT have a compleatly normal life without any of the problems you are saying they will have. Nothing is guaranteed.
Post # 151
I feel sorry for your children. Honestly. Elektra & Ryddik who can’t visit their grandparents because they wish their names were Nicole & Paul?…wow.
I’m just going to say it- the names are awful. Both of them. They make the children seem classless, and actually make you & their father look ignorant for thinking that those were proper names for children to be successful adults.
You gave them crazy first names, super normal middle names but are going to deny your own family visits because they want to call them by their middle names? That seriously boggles me. Take a hint from 4 pages of people & family- they are weird names.