- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
So, Fiance and I sort of realized we wanted to get married and were unofficially engaged only a few months in to our very long distance but very perfect relationship! I ended up moving over here on a fiance visa, and we’ll be married a year to the date we met next month!
So, what I’m getting at is, there was never really an official proposal or a waiting period or any of that. He started looking for a ring after we got engaged (During the original discussion/revelation we had: “I guess this means I should go get you a ring!” “Aw, you don’t have to.” “But I want to!” “Okay!”) and got down on one knee to give it to me on my next trip over to see him – however, I was in tears and being walked out to him by the UK Border Agency, having been denied entry and knowing I’d be sent right back to the States in two days! He knew this was happening as well (I was texting him while they made him wait for 6 hours) so instead of a traditional proposal line, he says…
“Can I still give you this?”
Despite the horrible hassle we’ve had with immigration (all over now, until what I’m sure will be a nightmarish process switching to the next visa) that moment is so fond and memorable to me, and so very “him”, that I absolutely love it! I was wondering how he was going to give me the ring, for one, and I had an inkling he was so eager he wouldn’t wait til we were out somewhere and would do it right at the airport. However, it wasn’t exactly the airport reception I’d been expecting! By the time they let me out, the whole place was empty except for the evil UKBA!!!
Maybe I’m a crazy person for loving how he did it anyway (and get this – the ring didn’t fit, so I left it to be resized and did get the traditional “will you marry me?” when I finally got back in the country for good this time – but that question was a bit moot at that point, hehe!) but I was thinking I ought to mention it fondly in my bride’s speech. Just a line about how his proposal was “Can I still give you this?” after our tussle with the UKBA!
What do you think, bees? 🙂