Post # 1
So, earlier this week I posted about adopting a 7 year old corgi last weekend. Darling Husband and I are so excited to have him as part of our family.
His previous owners “couldn’t afford him anymore,” but he doesn’t know that. I think he sees Darling Husband and I as the people that took him from his family. He was at the shelter for 5 days before we got him, and contracted some cold-like illness while there. We’re dealing with that, and have been to the vet twice already. We don’t mind that at all – we knew it was likely he’d get kennel cough or something similar.
I’ve been trying not to be broken-hearted that he doesn’t seem to like us too much – I mean, he’s going through a lot of stress right now. I get that. It still sucks when he doesn’t care if we’ve walked into a room, and his ears go down when we go to pet him. It seems like he’s getting a *little* better being around us, but today when I took him on his walk, he did something that made me really, really sad. He walked up to a complete stranger and jumped on her, as if he wanted her to pick him up. He hasn’t so much as hinted at wanting us to pick him up, so this came as quite a shock to me.
I’m so heartbroken. I feel like maybe he won’t ever like us, especially if he’s so much more interested in strangers. I don’t know what to do. I am spending so much time with him, showing him I love him, grooming him, giving him space when he seems to want it, taking him on walks… why would he go do something like that?
I guess I’m just looking for comfort, here. Or words of wisdom. Either way, I’m sad. 🙁
Post # 3
aw, give it time bee. He will warm up. It’s very sad his former family had to give him up, but with time he will realize that you guys love him just as much. You’re right, he’s probably very stressed and confused. Patience, a couple of months at least.
Post # 4
Awww. I’m sorry. Please try to think of it like this: he doesn’t know what happened to his family. He loved them and they’re gone – he’s in mourning. Give him time. I promise he will come to love you!
Post # 5
give him some time please. I have taken dogs in Foster and the whole transition can be really traumatic. Give the little guy at least 8 weeks. His life has been turned upside down and he doesn’t know why his mom and dad abandoned him. And you are a HERO for adopting a dog and not buying a puppy. Thank you for your big heart!!!
Post # 6
It would be such a huge shock for him. Give him time.
Post # 7
7 years old is kind of an old dog, and it is hard to “wipe the memory” of his former family away. Give him time, offer treats for good things, keep a happy attitude (they can totally tell), and just love him!
It will get better, and you are so great for welcoming him into your family!!
Post # 8
My parents adopted a shelter Persian male cat about 10 years ago. The kitty was around 6 or 7 and he HATED US. Hated us so much! He actually lived underneath their living room sofa for the first 2 months because he was so freaked out. We would come in the room and he would run under the sofa, run into a corner– really anything to get away from us. He hissed when we petted him and we thought “Well shit. Now we have a big beautiful fluffy cat that wants to murder us”
After about 2 months, my mom was sitting in the den on the sofa and the kitty came out from under his hiding place, jumped in her lap (we’d never even been able to pet him), and started purring. The rest was history. He lived a long and happy life with my parents, once he decided to claim them. A week is nothing! He will come around!
Post # 9
Have you been leaving him at home for extended periods (i.e., during work?) Maybe he’s having abandonment issues. If possible, take a few days where you cater to his every need. Do exactly what he loves, whether it be walks, Milkbones, sleeping in the bed, etc. Show up that you love him.
Post # 10
Give him time!! When we got our puppy it took him it took him a solid 2 weeks to get used to us. The first week he hid under coffee table whenever he could!! Lots of treat. You’ll win him over with some cupboard love!!
Post # 11
Hand feed him. It creates a bond and respect, and he’ll associate you with food, which is a big motivator and reward. It’s going to take him time to adjust either or.. he’s 7 after all. It’s probably not that he doesn’t like you, it’s probably more that he’s scared, confused and unsure. He’ll come around. Just spend time with him, give him lots of treats and praise.. and some alone time if he needs it. Also, try kneeling when you approach him and not petting the top of his head. My dog would run from being petted, and his trainer showed us to approach him from lowerm and pet his back first, or under his chin if he likes it. He’s a lot less hand shy now.
Post # 12
Definitely give it time… he will be a different dog soon. Seriously, around the 1 month mark, you see more of who they really are. By month 3, you’ll be seeing a completely different dog.
Post # 13
I agree to give it time. Corgi’s are very loyal dogs and he’s hurt right now. I have a 1 1/2 year old Corgi and he is such a kind and loving dog as is the breed from what I hear (FI had 1 before this one.) He will be licking your face in no time!
Post # 14
@StephieBee: Maybe the stranger used a soap or fragrance that was familiar to the dog. … Or maybe they had a hamburger in their pocket?
Post # 15
Lots of good advice here – I don’t have a lot to add except to say that once you get past this initial “settling in” phase – which could take as long as a month, so be patient – the next phase will likely be “testing” you. Once he’s more comfortable and feels like he has a handle on his new situation, he’ll start challenging you for the position of dominance in the family. Corgis especially have the kind of personality that makes this likely.
If you’re not comfortable that you have the training skills to deal with the issues that come up during this testing phase, you might consider enrolling in a beginner obediance class. That time working together with your dog will bond the two of you and give you the skills you need to teach him his proper place in the family hierarchy.
Dogs are creatures of routine, so for the next few months keep your routine calm, quiet and as regular as possible. Plenty of love, praise and positive reinforcement will help him become the dog you want him to be. And 6 months from now, you’ll look back and be hardly able to believe you wrote this post!
Post # 16
Hang in there! He doesn’t know you’re his people yet! The whole situation is new to him and he doesn’t know that this is his permanent new home and family yet. He doesn’t know what happened to his old family and his life has been turned upside-down in his mind.
Give it a few months and I’m sure he’ll adjust to his new life and things will get better!