(Closed) Our dog doesn't like us :(

posted 7 years ago in Pets
Post # 17
Member
4495 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My parents have had 4 dogs adopted from families that couldn’t keep them and they were ALL like this. They were just attached to their former owners and it’ll take a little time for them to get over that ‘loss.’ Eventually they came to love their new family though.

I got one of our dogs from a breeder and even she took about 3 weeks before she liked me. She just laid in the corner and didn’t acknowledge me at all! Ears didn’t go up, never wanted to play, nothing. I was so heartbroken and desperate for her to love me it was pathetic. Now we are attached at the hip ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 18
Member
11324 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Give it some more time. I have a corgi and they get VERY VERY attached to their “person.” My dog absolutely loves my parents. Except when they watch him. He mopes for days on end, even though every time I come back! The first time I ever left him with a friend when I went on vacation she said he moped for literally the entire week, and he knew/loved her! 

I think he just needs a few weeks (maybe a few months even) to let his broken heart heal and fall in love with you too. 

Post # 19
Member
1773 posts
Buzzing bee

I have a former stray. For the first year I had to reassure myself meh loved me! I feel the pain. Mine has had a lot if dog emotional problems and he’s totally a different dog three years later!!! Yours seems well adjusted, and I’m sure in no time he will grow attached. Hand feeding is a good idea.

Post # 20
Member
10 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’m sure he will come around, just give him some time.  A week isn’t very much time considering the huge change he has gone through and doesn’t understand.  He not only left his family, but he went to the shelter so he may not see you as permanent yet either.  I volunteer with our local shelter and I think it is great you adopted him.  I’m sure it’s hard for you since you guys are so excited and he doesn’t seem happy, but I’m sure you’ll be rewarded with a very grateful and happy dog soon!

Post # 21
Member
296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

He just needs to learn to trust you guys and see you as his new family. It must be awfully traumatic to be separated from the only family he’s ever known and taken to a shelter and then given to new people and the poor little guy doesn’t understand why. Please just be extra patient with him for the next few months and be very gentle. Don’t force snuggles on him, but allow him to take his time to warm up to you all. I’m so glad you guys adopted a shelter pet and I think with a little time, and a lot of patience and love, he’ll end up being a great fit for you guys. I have had 4 shelter pets and two of them were  about a year old when I adopted them (and while that doesn’t seem like a lot), it took quite a few months for them to truly warm up to me and want to love on me or even be near me. I was extra patient and they turned out to be 2 of the best dogs I have ever had. They are extremely affectionate and loyal now and it’s hard to believe there was ever a time where they didn’t really like me. 

Btw, you sound like you’re doing a great job, so don’t be so hard on yourself! *hugs* 

Post # 22
Member
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My dog was like this. My Mother-In-Law rescued him and we adopted him from her when he was 6  (she rescues dogs and finds them fitting homes). He was so distant from me. He moped around for a good month before he slowly started becoming attached to me. He LOVES me now and waits by the sliding glass door, looking out to the parking lot until my car pulls up….then he runs to the door and greets me with kisses and jumps around like he hasn’t seen me in years. He’s the best companion. He is a corgi chow mix. I promise that once he realizes you’re always there for him, he will be attached forever! 

Post # 23
Member
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Oh, and my friend adopted a corgi from the pound a few months ago who also did the same thing. She won’t leave his side now, and is constantly in his lap, or laying beside him. She adores him! But her former owner just dropped her one day because she was “tired” of her. Poor baby. 

Post # 24
Member
1430 posts
Bumble bee

Aww poor guy. Thank goodness you rescued him. Give him treats, hang feed him food for awhile, and keep doing what your doing. It will take some time but he will come around he just doesn’t understand all the changes in his life. Also, dogs can sense emotion so maybe you being so heartbroken about him not being happier just bums him out more?  Lets see a picture of this little cutie!!

Post # 25
Member
64 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

When I brought my dog home, he refused to eat for days. I’m sure he missed his previous owner and wasn’t comfortable in a new enivornment so I hung in there and now he is the most precious thing to me (other than my fiance of course).

Don’t give up on him. Hang in there, they are so worth it! He will bring so much joy to you in the future and don’t be upset that he jumped at another person at the park, it may not be a bad thing. At least you know he’s friendly and social. My friend has a corgi and they are adorable and cheeky at times. More love and more treats, all relationships take time ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 26
Member
44 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Don’t anthropomorphize your dog. You’ll just end up over doing it and overwhelming him. You say he’s only been with you a week. Think of it this way. This poor dog has had a family a life a routine, he’s then taken to the pound with new faces new smells new dogs. You A STRANGER then picks him up. He goes to a new place with new people (Strangers) new routine new food? Etc you get it now? Oh not to mention he’s sick! He may be feeling a bit run down. These things can be huge in a dogs life. He’s 7 years old.

Give him time, space and love on his terms. Don’t force yourselves on him. Dont beat yourselves up if it takes a lot longer than a week. Also, if he’s got a cold that he’s picked up from the pound why are you taking him for walks in public? Has the vet OK’d this? 

 

Post # 27
Member
997 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Awww! One of our rescues was the same way, but she came around eventually. Now, my fiancé is her entire world and she follows him around obsessively. Good for you for rescuing!!!

Post # 28
Member
1074 posts
Bumble bee

My rescue dog hid under my bed for a month and seemed to be genuinely scared of me at first. My mantra at the time was “let him adjust at his own pace”, I didn’t make him be near me unless I was taking him outside or feeding him a treat.  A lightswitch went off one day and now we’re completely inseperable, I’ve even had people ask me how I got a dog to bond so closely to me (he’s a “take all comers” sort of breed). He’s my fuzzy shadow and the initial snubbing was so worth it. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 29
Member
7939 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

When we adopted our dog he was very withdrawn and seemed very sad.  I think he really missed his former life.  It really took several months for him to come around to us.  But now he absolutely loves us.  He was about 4 when we adopted him, so he had had a significant life before us.  I think it takes some time for them to adjust.

Post # 30
Member
8437 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

My dog was very aloof when I first got him (about 1yr old, stray impound), but training your dog will bond him to you.  I would start with basic commands, like sit, and use positive reinforcement (treats, toys, etc); your dog will warm up to you more quickly.

Post # 31
Member
4687 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

View original reply
@Ennie:  ++++1

I adopted a dud, grumpy cat who was like 8 or so from the shelter. She HATED us to start. Now, she sits on my chest, stares at me lovingly and is obsessed with me ๐Ÿ™‚ It took a LONG time but I broke down her barriers. I know she’s a cat but it was kinda similar situation. I’m sure your corgi will get to love you- once dogs see that you feed them and give them attention, they learn to trust and love you. He doesn’t know that about your yet is all.

I KNOW it will work out!

The topic ‘Our dog doesn't like us :(’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors