- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
Fiance an I just got back from our EE weekend and OMG it was amazing! I was nervous about it as I am not Catholic and Fiance was nervous because we live together. I did some “weddingbee” research and had heard such great reviews which made me feel better but nothing could have prepared us for how great of an experience it was.
We stayed at an old Catholic boarding school which was a very cool old building but a little intimidating when you first arrive for the weekend. There were two presenting couples and we were lucky enough to have an awesome priest that was super relaxed and very funny. He was so welcoming…not sure how the Catholic bees will feel about this but during Mass before communion he even talked about how he doesn’t feel it’s his place to say who can and can’t get communion so if you were baptized and believed in transubstantiation, you were free to take communion, or you could just come up for a blessing (what I did) or you could stay in the pews. It made me feel so much more comfotable and welcome and I know that is not the teaching of the Church and I am sure not how he runs his own parish but it was very much appreciated at the EE where the majority of couples were not both Catholic. Mass was actually one of the most touching parts of the weekend for me. Father talked about what the sacrament of marriage means in the Catholic church and I never really understood it. Coming from a family of divorce, that kind of forever bond between God, my Fiance, and myself and the understanding that Fiance and I are becoming a physical show of God’s love really touched and humbled me. The two presenting couples were great too…SO funny and so open about their own lives and marriages it made it a lot easier for us to be completely open with eachother.
Like most have said, we basically had a bunch of talks were the priest and one of the couples spoke about a specific topic (being open, how to fight, forgiveness, sex (which the priest did not attend, thankfully!)), then the men and women would seperate and journal for about 20 minutes responding to a set of questions, then Fiance and I got together privately for about 30 minutes to read what eachother wrote and discuss it. We did have a few things come up that we hadn’t discussed, but more than anything we realized how well aligned we are and how well we understand one another. Fiance doesn’t talk about his feelings much and so it made me appreciate the experience so much more. We talked the entire 3 hour drive home about the weekend and how thankful we are that we did it and how it is something we would like to be involved in it in the future.
I just wanted to write this post for those bees who, like me, are nervous for their EE weekend or are unsure of what to expect. I know our priest and presenting couples had a big impact on making our weekend as enjoyable as it was but honestly, we would have gotten a lot out of it no matter who was leading the discussions. It is something I would HIGHLY highly recommend, even for those couples where neither party is Catholic. At no point during this weekend did I feel at all uncomfotable not being of that faith. It is just a great way to take time off wedding planning and refocus of the reason you are planning – your Fiance and your relationship with eachother. Thanks for reading everybody!