(Closed) Our families are meeting. Hoarder vs Neat freak

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 16
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55 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

lolabee397:  Welcome to my world! Same exact situation for me – know what I do? Let people be who they are. You can’t control judgement – if your Future Mother-In-Law steps out of line then it’s your FI’s place to say something to her. My in laws have been over to my family’s small and cramped knick knacky home many times, for holidays, bbq’s…and I’m quite sure they are happy to go home to their museum when they leave. My Darling Husband even used to be uncomfortabl and has said many times ‘I could never live like that” and I say well you don’t have to. Now he’s used to it. Try to keep in mind that your parents would likely be just as uncomfortable going to the in-laws house. Some people like living in a ‘lived in’ home and others want a catalog picture. Look at it from both sides.  

Post # 17
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1319 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

lolabee397:  Both of our parents have been to the other’s houses so I understand your concern. Despite how judgey your Future Mother-In-Law is, I think it is important to sit down with them and explain that your parents are hoarders and explain what the situation is like. If you know there’s an event coming up where Future Mother-In-Law will definitely be in your parents’ house and you can’t avoid it, then you definitely should warn her ahead of time. Regardless, any judgements she has are going to be made. But if you talk to her about it beforehand, you won’t be adding shock and surprise to the judgement factor. She will be able to make faces and talk bad about it before she arrives and hopefully act like an adult while she’s there.

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