Post # 1
I am super stoked! I just ordered the tartan that we will be using for our hand-fasting ceremony!! Mr. Moon and I decided to be wed on the very same beach where he proposed. He is Catholic, I am not. But we could not think of a more perfect place in front of our family and all of God’s creation to be united. We will be doing our version of a hand fasting ceremony as a nod to our combine heritage, in addition to exchanging rings. I say our version because we are using a tartan instead of cords and we are writing our own ceremony. I’m interested to know: Has anyone else incorporated Hand-fasting? Or have you tweaked tradition to fit your style?
Sample of our tartan:
Post # 3
Yes! We are doing handfasting!^^ Your tartan is so lovely! I actually wanted to use tartan to bind our hands together since my family background is Scottish and FI’s is not (ie. doubling the ritual to make it a welcoming of Fiance into our clan); however, I don’t think that is going to be possible. I think we might end up using cords in our wedding colours instead. I took a version of a handfasting ceremony I found from the Internet modified it slightly (FI’s first language is Korean, so I tried to simplify some of the responses so he wouldn’t get messed up in the English in a moment of stress!)
Post # 4
The origin I believe of the expression, Tying the Knot. It last for more than a year and a day (wink).
Post # 5
We’re doing a handfasting too! We’re going to use cords instead of my family’s tartan, though.
Post # 6
I think we might do handfasting! I should probably figure that out pretty soon…his family is part Irish and we wanted to give some sort of nod to that in the ceremony.
Post # 7
@bamm: I love the idea of “welcoming” your future husband into your clan! That is part of the reason we chose to use a tartan. I am of English heritage- first generation American actually, and Mr. Moon is second generation (his heritage is Irish/English) so it seemed natural to us to include this ceremony. Mr. Moon is an officer with the local police, who just happen to have a pipes and drums band with their own tartan- score! We are using their tartan in our handfasting. Before we learned that we could purchase said tartan, we had considered finding a lovely piece of fabric with a pattern we both liked and making it our tartan, might that be an option for you?
@Miss Burgundy: I attended a wedding some years ago where there was a handfasting, and my Maid/Matron of Honor said at her episcopal wedding the priest wrapped the end of his stole around their wrists. I did a few lengthy internet searches to get an idea and just tweeked it to suit us. It’s not a big deal to our officiant, since we are writing our own ceremony, she’s actually really excited about it. Best of luck planning!
Post # 8
Just an update for you Bees out there considering a handfasting. Ours went beautifully. We had our best man and matron of honor do the “fastening” as they are both married (not to eachother) and hope to emulate their strong relationship traits. We wrote the ceremony ourselves, so we included elements that were important to us- like the mention of children, and our christian faith. It was a very intimate, reflective point in the ceremony- highlighted by the harpist playing the Lord’s pray and a moment of reflection and blessing. Good luck to you gals planning your own handfastings!
Post # 9
I am trying to find more expamples of handfasting cermonys we both have Irish background but 3/4 generations back at least. We have one son together. We are getting married on St. Patrick’s Day =)
Post # 10
Oh my…are you sure you’re not me? lol My fiance is Catholic..and I am not..we’re getting married on the same beach he proposed..and we’ve decided to incorporate a hand fasting!! I love it =) I wanna tweak the hand fasting to fit us..but I have not figured out how exactly to do it yet. I wanna do it as well as doing the rest of the regular ceremony like the ring vows and what not…I think I want to do cords though but not sure of how the actual ceremony is going to take place. I’m excited…any ideas is always helpful!
Post # 11
Could you message me what you had said in your handfasting cermony we are trying to find ideas and any thing would help thank you for your time