- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
I’m finally far enough from the wedding to write about it nicely and give a proper recap. Well, at least a proper written recap. I don’t have many photos. The photographer and her second shooter have photos up on the blog, but I don’t have any pro pictures that I can post yet (copyrights and stuff).
Here’s the story.
We got married on Sunday, July 3, 2011.
I flew in to SF on Wednesday and did a bajillion wedding tasks (the down side of planning a wedding long distance).
On Saturday was my chill, ridiculous bachelorette party. Since this was largely a destination wedding for friends and most of the family (and even myself and my husband)–the only way to have a well-attended bachelorette party was to do it the day before the wedding. The other reason I did this was to make myself too busy to do any more wedding tasks.
The party was a day out in SF with a photo scavenger hunt. We left there for the spa where we got mani-pedis. Then the bridal party left a little early for the rehearsal.
In retrospect… I almost wish we had a big rehearsal dinner with everyone. I did not have enough time with everyone at the wedding! Of course, the dinner itself would have been a huge stress.
At the rehearsal, one of the groomsmen didn’t show (I had a feeling that would happen). So… my brother because a groomsman. 2 of my bridesmaids were late, so we actually rehearsed twice. The rehearsal was really nerve wracking. I had a terrible time with the DOC. (She came with the venue.)
Day of the wedding:
Woke up, got breakfast with my bridesmaid, and was freaked out–just wanted to get ready already. Of course, my Maid/Matron of Honor A wasn’t there yet.
11:30AM Maid/Matron of Honor A and bridesmaid’s makeup appointment at Benefit in Macys (a short walk from the hotel where we got married). They did a great job but took FOREVER on my Maid/Matron of Honor A. NOTE: Maid/Matron of Honor A is my make up and hair artist.
1:PM I am back at the hotel with my bridesmaid and the videographer and friend A. Maid/Matron of Honor A is still getting makeup done. Boutenniers are pulled out of the fridge–they got FROZEN. We had to rescue them. Maid/Matron of Honor B is running late.
2PM Finally found my bustier–not just my dress. That was a major freakout. Luckily my mom knew where it got moved to. Phew!
2 30 PM : Wedding in ONE HOUR. At least the part that I was hoping to be there for. Hair starts.
3 30 PM I am now late, but no one would know until 4:15PM that I was late. Hair is done or almost done–starting make up. Invite says it starts at 4 PM. Plan was a kabbalat panim till 4:15, then ketubah signing, then main ceremony at 4:30 PM.
4:30 DOC tells us to skip part of the ceremony. I cave.
4:45 PM Everyone is ready, we go upstairs. I freak out in the lounge and cry- the ugly cry. I hide from the photogs and videogs. I hate being late. I hate late people, and on this most important day, I have held up almost 100 people. I cry, boy do I cry. I somehow don’t mess up my make up.
To hurry along the events, we combine the ketubah signing and the bedekken and do everything under the chupah.
The ceremony was so beautiful and I remember it very clearly. I remember waiting at the door to walk in and seeing my first best friend sitting there with her daughter and her mom.
I remember walking down the aisle and seeing my handsome husband–sword in the air– and the beautiful chupah my aunt, cousin and two friends put up. Phew– not going to cry anymore–to beautiful a moment.
I forget to hug and kiss my mom and dad after they walk me down the aisle. Oops! Turns out he forgot to hug his mom, too!
Then the ketubah signing, the veiling, the ceremony itself. At the end, he breaks the glass (originally he really didn’t want to do it, so I thought I was going to do it). At the end, the guests actually blew the bubbles that our greeters handed out. It was lovely!
Then the receiving line I fought so hard (against the DOC) to have. It was WONDERFUL. And honestly I am so glad we did it or else we wouldn’t have gotten to talk to many people.
Unfortunately at this point we were over an hour late. So… we moved our family formals to AFTER the wedding. Mistake? I hope not, but I feel like it was. We missed some important ones–and we missed the last dances with the band.
We took the limo around the corner to do our wedding party photos in the middle of union square. A million people were staring. And I was SO STRESSED. Just take a few and let me back to my party! LOL. But it felt like they were taking forever. Finally we went back to the party.
We were introduced, and walked in. Toasts from our dads. They both missed some of what they planned, but were lovely. He dad later posted his AMAZING intended toast on facebook. It made me cry.
Then, dinner. Got to talk to a couple tables. Then the DOC came over, and I just wanted her to leave me alone. The band coordinator came to the wedding (she was at the meeting with the DOC and I think she came to see the drama, and actually it was a huge blessing she was there.)
I was so frustrated and just wanted some music. So the band coordinator got the band to start playing before our first dance. And they were AWESOME. (Gravy Boat, contracted by Marianne Kent)
The band learned one of our favorite songs for our first dance (1,2,3,4 by Plain White T’s). They did a fabulous job! We never got around to formal dance lessons, but I taught my husband some basics. He twirled me a little, picked me up once, spun himself, and generally it was great! And the band was so good (I can’t say that enough).
Then, minute to win it– only one game since we were running so late. And the DOC forgot we ordered the projector package–little delay on that. We ended up playing a lot more games at the “after party.”
Then dancing for a bit and the cake cutting ( I had a little fit because the cake was not really what we asked for, and when we cut it open it looked like the wrong flavor. Actually it was the right flavor).
More dancing– lots of fun!
Some photobooth pictures with friends and the guest book was a HUGE hit. It had mad libs, photo corners to put photobooth pictures in it, and some other fun little prompts to help people write something.
My mom sprang for an extra 1/2 hour for the band, and the DOC agreed to leave stuff out for the 1/2 hour! How? No idea! Sweet!
Suddenly, it was time for family photos. I only visited 4 or so tables of our 13. (Ok, 12, one was vendors). SO GLAD we did the receiving line.
So many things went wrong and I was really frustrated about it for a while (hence the late recap). Actually my husband was EXTREMELY mad at me for being late because he thought I did it on purpose. (Everyone told him the bride is *supposed* to be late, but he knows I hate being late.) Actually, he wanted to have a talk about how mad he was at me about it and I started to cry.
ANYWAY, in the end, though we had fun at parts of it and were kind of frustrated through most of it, tons of our guests said it was the best wedding they’ve ever been to (WHAT?).
And, now we really feel married. The honeymoon was great, too. (We hiked in to the grand canyon, rafted on the grand canyon, and gambled and watched shows in Las Vegas.)
Photos if you made it through all that:
Angela Chandler Photography our photographer’s second shooter
invites and save the dates
flowers (with family help! and even my husband’s help)
cake toppers (the good one is actually on the “groom’s cake”– no pro pics yet!)
escort cards/place cards (though not really a big deal)