Post # 1
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle
We just got final confirmation that Fiance gets his promotion on Monday!!! I don’t even care about the extra money and benefits… what I care about is that we’ll actually get to see each other now!!
For the past year and a half that we have lived together we’ve had 100% opposite work schedules. I work 9-5 and he works 3-11. He’s got an hour commute + an hour time change, which meant he wouldn’t get home til after 1 am some nights, well past my bedtime. He’s would spend his nights awake while I was asleep, see me for a bit in the mornings before I take off for work, and then crash. Sometimes all we would get would be about a 5 minute “hello” when he got home from work (I would be sleeping) and then a 5 minute cuddle before I would leave for work in the morning.
Now he’s going to start a 7-3, so we should be getting home around the same time!! I’m so freaking excited to not spend every.single.night.alone. YAY!!
Any bees that have experienced “shift work” or opposite schedules that need advice and/or want to vent, feel free! I think I have a lot of advice that I can offer.
Post # 3
omg!!!!!! my fiance will be switching jobs from a HORRIBLE like 1pm-2am to a 9-5 and i CANNOT WAIT!!
no more seeing eachother for a few hours every week!
i can totally sympathize! i don’t even know what i’ll do seeing him everyday after work/on weekends! hahahah
Post # 4
So exciting!!! My Darling Husband started working 2nd shift a few months ago. I work 6am-2:30 and he works 3:30-12am. I have an hour commute though so I don’t see him before he leaves for work.
It hasn’t been horrible because I do work from home every other day, so I can stay up late to see him if I’m home the next day, plus we’re home together in the day during my telework days. However, I am bored to death sitting at home by myself at night!! He is going back to 1st shift next month. Can’t wait!!
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle
@brooklyn_bee: Right!? I don’t even know what I’m going to do in the evenings! I feel like for the first month I’ll probably have dinner on the table everynight… until that gets old, lol. Super excited!!
@adoc86: I work from home a lot too, but Fiance is so noctornal that he’s always sleeping while I’m there in the day :/ That’s awesome that your opposite schedules aren’t too bad. I’ve literally spent almost every weeknight (except a few Fridays and literally a handful of other weeknights) alone for the past year and a half! I would’ve probably gone totally bat shit insane had I not discovered WB!! 1 more month for you! That’s super exciting 😀
Post # 7
@FutureDrAtkins: Holy Cow! seems like everyone is getting good job news today! Hubby has had some crazy 15 hour shifts these last two weeks and things go back to normal on Monday, so glad to have him be home more!
Anyway, holly freaking congrats to your Fi and cheers to more quality time!
Post # 8
YAY! Congratulations! That sounds like an awesome change! 🙂
Post # 9
What fantastic news! I’m so happy for you guys!
I recently got a promotion at work as well 🙂 I will probably see my husband a little bit less, but we are both thrilled about the money and additional benefits!
I used to work thirds and he used to work firsts and seconds and that was hell for about a year, so I know the pain you guys have been going through.
Post # 10
CONGRATS!!!! Omg I cannot wait till this day. My SO is overnight now and has been for 8 months. We did have the option for a 3-11 shift job for her but realized that that would mean being in your situation where we never saw each other except on weekends. We have at least another 6 months, likely another 9-10. It’s a rough road to travel that’s for sure. I’m so happy for you!
Post # 11
I’m curious, did you at least share a day off during the week? I have a talent for being alone, but even I would go nuts with 1.5 years of that schedule!
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle
@Payless: YES! Thank you!! And congrats to you guys too! Ugh. I mean, literally for the past year and a half I have gone solo on week nights. When we bought our house, we moved to a “far away land” where we know no one. I haven’t really acclimated here yet and haven’t really met any friends for outside of work fun time 🙁 I’m sooooo super pumped that we’ll get to finally spend time together. He had it rough himself, only being up at nights while I’m sleeping (and also not knowing anyone from here and being up at hours to interact with people). Fortunately, his brother in MN was on Skype every night along with a few of his best friends so he could keep in touch. My friends live in the middle of no where and can’t Skype 🙁 So all in all, my life will literally improve 1 million fold, I’m sure of it! haha. I couldn’t take it much longer. (Sorry for the rambling, I’ve treated myself to a few cocktails tonight).
@MsMeow: Thank you!! <3
@MrsSkeletonKey: Thank you for your words. Sounds like you totally understand! PS – I’m going to PM you bc I’m wondering if we might live relatively close to one another. Sorry I don’t mean to sound creepy but I love your advice and updates 😀
@AvaAdore: Yes! Thankfully we are both off on the weekends, and always have been for the *almost* 8 years we’ve been together! We were long distance for 6 1/2 years before we got our house together…and with our different schedules, it almost seemed like nothing had changed. We went from living 2 1/2 hours away and only seeing each other on the weekends, to living together and only seeing each other on the weekends. I’ve heard “absence makes the heart grow fonder” enough to last a lifetime. I am *so* ready for our “real life” to begin 😀
Post # 13
@FutureDrAtkins: That’s really exciting! Woohoo!
My dad is a machinist and he worked shift work all while I was growing up, until I was about 15 or so. I would go for long periods without actually seeing him since he was on a three shift rotation, and each rotation is two weeks long… Day shift was 7am – 3pm and that’s when I got to see him. Then it would be Afternoon shift which was 3pm – 12am, and then Night shift which was 12am – 7am. During those shifts he would sleep during the day so I never saw him, and sometimes he would work Saturdays so I would see him even less!
As he got older, he complained that it was getting harder to rotate through the shifts (I don’t blame him, shift work is SO BAD for your health. Working steady nights has been shown to cut your lifespan a little bit!). Then he got a promotion and now just works the Day shift. YAY!
It’s really hard when everyone in your house is on different schedules, so it’s super nice when everything lines up again. Enjoy it!
Post # 14
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle
@musical-lady: OMG. I can relate to you 100%. My dad was a shift worker and went on 3 week cycles of days to afternoons to midnights. He was an overhead crane opperator in a huge steel mill and would transport tons of steel a few stories overhead of workers in a giant factory. To say his job was stressful is an understatement. At times, he could be quite the monster when on midnights.. and especially when transitioning from midnights to days. I’m sooooo thankful that your dad has days now… my dad wasn’t so lucky and ended up passing away very unexpectedly from stress related cardiac issues… 2 days from now will make exactly 2 years since his passing. It’s so amazing how hard our men work to contribute to our families and support us. I will never even be able to express my deepest gratitude for all the sacrifices they make for us!! I miss my dad everyday, but I guess it’s something I’m becoming accustomed to.
Post # 15
@FutureDrAtkins: First off, yay!!!!! That is definitely great news, especially on a Friday! Secondly, your Dwight Schrute graphic is hilarious 🙂
Post # 16
@FutureDrAtkins: 🙂 i am SO happy for you! my husband and i were in the same situation. Our first year together we had normal work lives and then the 2nd 3rd and 4th year i worked 5:30a,-3:30pm and he worked 3:30pm-2am. We only talked from 8:30-9pm during the week and with sleep schedules really only “saw each other” saturday and sunday night. We did live together during this time, so when he would come home he would give me a kiss, or i would occasionally bring him dinner for 30 min. Planning a wedding on Saturdays alone was incredibly difficult…… it was September and we were to get married in 6 weeks. I had finally after many years of this come to the acceptance that he would be on overnights for the foreseeable future and had come to be okay with this. I was mentally preparing ti be married for 6 months and be on these schedules. (6 months was my very best hope!).
i left work at 3:40 in early September to a text from him saying “you are going to have to help me fall alseep early Sunday night 🙂 🙂 “. and i just knew.. I immediately started crying in the parking lot and ran back in to tell my coworkers who has seen me struggle with this for the past 3 years!
We spent the next 6 weeks finishing up (okay that us a lie, more like starting a TON of wedding stuff) barely finishing the evening of the wedding!!! I dont know if we would have pulled it off with only 6 saturdays left….. Lol
we have been married for over a year now, and he works 5am-3:30 and i worm 5:30-330. It is so perfect we even carpool 🙂 :). looking back those 3 years went quickly, i feel lucky that our relationship survived.
i know the exact excitement you are feeling, i am so happy for you! It is the small things like brushing your teeth together, deciding what to eat for dinner together, heck even dishes together that is AMAZING after opposite schedules for so long!