Post # 1
My SO and I are kind of shaken up so just wanted to vent a little 🙁
We live in a city, so there are alleys behind our house that we drive through to get to our parking area behind our house. These alleys are fairly well frequented by cars since most people park behind their houses and the alleys are the only way to get there.
Anyway, so our neighbor that lives behind us has 2 small children and they frequently play on trikes or scooters IN THE ALLEY directly behind our parking area. Today we were coming home and saw that the kids were playing in the alley, directly in our car’s path. So we came to a complete stop in front of the kids. One of them looked right at us and just sat there looking.. didn’t move at all. So eventually we started edging the car around them, very slowly, giving as wide a space as possible. Well, the kids’ mom was sitting on her porch around the corner and as our car nosed into view she started yelling. We rolled down the window and she’s yelling “DON’T YOU SEE MY KIDS?!” FI says “yes, that’s why I’m swerving around so wide”. Neighbor says “THAT’S WAY TOO CLOSE FOR MY COMFORT, MY KID IS ONLY 2” and continues trying to confront us. All my Fiance said was “OK, please keep your kids out of the street then, have a nice day” and then ignored.
Of course, now we’re both shaken up and convinced our car is going to get smashed, or we’re going to get verbally (or physically) accosted while taking our dog out or going out to our car…
What else could we have done? I feel like if we had honked or told the kids to get out of the way she’d have been just as likely to confront us about “not yelling at her kids”.
I think we should ignore it unless she confronts either of us again, but what then? And what about next time her kids are in our street? Argh. I’d like to think we could just ask “how should we alert you / your children to get out of the street”? but will that just trigger more drama?
Argh. Who lets a 2 year old play in the street and then gets mad at people driving?!
Post # 3
@hollysprig: if we saw the kid out in the street again, we’d make a courtesy call to the police. Maybe they can instruct her on how to be a responsible parent.
Post # 5
Exactly what I was going to say. She could definitely have a case of child endangerment on her hands if she does that often.
Post # 6
My honest opinion? You’re both in the wrong. She is a complete and utter moron for allowing her toddler out into the street.
Now. For future reference, the next time you see a toddler in the road, do not inch your car around him. Stop the vehicle and ask where he lives, march him to the front door and hand him to mom. Or call the police. Don’t keep driving around him unless you’re willing to risk him darting out in front of a moving vehicle.
Post # 7
Maybe she should be yelling at herself for being a negligent parent. If she’s going to continue to let them play in the street, then she needs to be in the street with them standing right next to them so she can see if a car is coming.
Post # 8
Honestly, call the police/ CPS. God forbid that someone were to fly down that ally.
Post # 10
Where I’m from, alleys are where kids play (although I only let my child start playing outside alone at age 9, and only when I’m on the back porch and can see her in the alley). No, she shouldn’t have her small children playing unattended in the street. But you all should not have tried to move your car around them like that. Children move lightning-quick. She should be a more responsible parent, but you guys should be responsible adults as well as ensure you don’t do anything to put unattended children in danger (because depending on laws in your area, if the child had been injured or worse, that would be the driver’s fault).
Post # 11
I would’ve personally just stopped altogether and shouted at the kids to move out of the way if they just stood there. If they didn’t move, I’d stop the car, get out, and walk over to them/their parents and let them know they need to move out of the ROAD for cars since it’s not their playground.
Post # 12
yeah, you are right… in the moment it was not the safest decision.
We don’t live in the best part of town so I think we were both a bit afraid of getting up in the neighbor’s face and accusing her first of letting her kids in the street.
Post # 13
And we were afraid of the “how dare you yell at my kids” response.. even though of course that is safer.
Post # 14
This really freaks me out.
The parent is a moron but I would NOT move my car around kids like that. That is way too dangerous and risky… There are too many cases where a family member runs over a kid or a grandma/ grandpa IN their driveway.
Post # 15
…I think the *mom* needs a spanking.
Post # 16
This ” parent” should have grabbed their kid by the hand and escorted them off the street. There are places a called parks where parents can bring their kids to play.
The street isn’t a playground! while I personally wouldn’t have maneuvered my car around these kids, I certainly would have asked this parent to collect her children so I could park In my f’in driveway!