(Closed) Our officiate

posted 7 years ago in Secular
Post # 3
907 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

The Roman Catholic Church may not have female priests, but they do believe in holy women . . . nuns, saints, other women participating in the Mass as Eucharistic Ministers, etc.

My hunch is they will be completely fine with it, especially since they seem to be okay with your outdoor, secular wedding. I wouldn’t make a big deal about it, just say, Oh, by the way, the pastor we’ve chosen is my cousin, Mary Ellen (or whatever).

Post # 4
428 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wouldn’t stress too much over it. I have a feeling your Future Mother-In-Law will understand… not to mention you will still be married by a Godly woman (Pastor)

Post # 5
335 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Agree with PP on holy women.  If Future Mother-In-Law and fam are already okay with the outdoor wedding, then I think she will be okay with the female officiant, especially if she’s a pastor and family.  If you’re comfortable, it may be a nice gesture to have some sort of nod to his side’s Catholism like asking if there is a family rosary bead you can wrap around your bouquet or having Ave Maria be a song in the ceremony.  Neither of these are Catholic wedding traditions per se, but it could be a nice, subtle acknowledgement. 

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