Post # 1
I am getting really nervous because Saturday his parents will meet mine for the first time. We’ve been together for about 2 1/2 years, and engaged for 7 months of that. Each of us gets along well with the other’s parents.
But our parents have VERY, VERY different personalities. His parents make a lot more money and set their own schedules, as they’re home builders. They like fancy food, wine, and life’s finer things. My parents are both hard core engineers who frequent places like Chili’s (nothing against Chili’s – I worked there for 5 yrs!). My dad doesn’t eat much else than steak and potatoes and they prefer simple wines like German rieslings. Personality wise, his parents are far more laid back and open-minded.
I’m really concerned they won’t find much to talk about at dinner or something will just be awkward. Anyone out there gone through this too?
Post # 3
I would say that you have nothing to worry about! Even though my parents and FI’s are somewhat similar, I had the same worries about them not finding much to talk about, but their first meeting went really, really well. We all made sure to have a few drinks and the conversation was flowing easily!! Seriously, the drinks help! Plus, won’t you and your Fiance be there to start up a convo/ask a question etc if they start getting quiet?
Post # 4
I’ve TOTALLY been there! And I was so nervous that I was about to throw up in the car on the way to the restaurant! And we had the exact same problem, except my parents were the ones with more money than his… but it ended up being totally okay and they actually got along really well. Limit the alcohol (no one drank at our meeting cause his parents don’t) and steer away from politics or religion if they differ in opinion!
Post # 5
Don’t forget they have something huge in common – their children are getting married 🙂 They will have a great time swapping embarrassing stories of what you did as babies. Don’t worry too much, keep the conversation moving and I’m sure the wedding will give them lots to talk about anyway.
Post # 6
Oh man, I feel your pain. I was super nervous for the parent introductions. We kept the conversation moving though and it really wasn’t bad. A restaurant is a wise choice, versus dinner in one set’s home. That way you know you’ll have to get out of there in a couple of hours and there is no threat of lingering around for more conversation, etc. : ) And ditto mountain.bride re: both sets love you & your Fiance, so just repeat that to yourself in your head!!! And a cocktail would probably help! Good luck!
Post # 7
Our parents met last Spring at our college graduation. In addition to our parents being completely different personality-wise, they were from different cultures and religions…and we had had some parent drama in the recent past. Needless to say, we were both extremely nervous. It went so much better than we expected though – I would say don’t worry and just be ready to talk a lot and guide the conversation a bit.
Post # 8
I think it will be fine. Actually, if my parents managed to have a nice dinner with my fiance’s dad, and everything worked out ok (it did!), then there’s no way that anything could go wrong with your parent-meeting dinner. My parents are SOOOO completely different from FI’s dad. I could go on and on about the differences, but then this post would be LONG.
Anyways, what we decided to do was to meet at the Outback Steakhouse for dinner. Good, unpretentious food for all. …and our waiter was super on top of things. So dinner was quick. We managed to make pleasant conversation for about 45 minutes, and then we got the check, and we all got the hell out of there. So all in all, things went fine. I’m sure the same will happen for you, as long as everyone commits to being on their best behavior. (Oh, and also, Fiance and I brainstormed some “topics of conversation for dinner” beforehand, so that we had some go-to topics if the conversation fell off, or went somewhere innapropriate. I highly suggest doing that as well.)