(Closed) Our parents are meeting

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would say that you have nothing to worry about!  Even though my parents and FI’s are somewhat similar, I had the same worries about them not finding much to talk about, but their first meeting went really, really well.  We all made sure to have a few drinks and the conversation was flowing easily!!  Seriously, the drinks help!  Plus, won’t you and your Fiance be there to start up a convo/ask a question etc if they start getting quiet?

Post # 4
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4567 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’ve TOTALLY been there! And I was so nervous that I was about to throw up in the car on the way to the restaurant! And we had the exact same problem, except my parents were the ones with more money than his… but it ended up being totally okay and they actually got along really well. Limit the alcohol (no one drank at our meeting cause his parents don’t) and steer away from politics or religion if they differ in opinion!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Don’t forget they have something huge in common – their children are getting married 🙂 They will have a great time swapping embarrassing stories of what you did as babies. Don’t worry too much, keep the conversation moving and I’m sure the wedding will give them lots to talk about anyway.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

Oh man, I feel your pain.  I was super nervous for the parent introductions.  We kept the conversation moving though and it really wasn’t bad.  A restaurant is a wise choice, versus dinner in one set’s home.  That way you know you’ll have to get out of there in a couple of hours and there is no threat of lingering around for more conversation, etc.  : )  And ditto mountain.bride re: both sets love you & your Fiance, so just repeat that to yourself in your head!!!  And a cocktail would probably help!  Good luck! 

Post # 7
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1566 posts
Bumble bee

Our parents met last Spring at our college graduation. In addition to our parents being completely different personality-wise, they were from different cultures and religions…and we had had some parent drama in the recent past. Needless to say, we were both extremely nervous. It went so much better than we expected though – I would say don’t worry and just be ready to talk a lot and guide the conversation a bit. 

Post # 8
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1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think it will be fine.  Actually, if my parents managed to have a nice dinner with my fiance’s dad, and everything worked out ok (it did!),  then there’s no way that anything could go wrong with your parent-meeting dinner.  My parents are SOOOO completely different from FI’s dad.  I could go on and on about the differences, but then this post would be LONG. 

Anyways, what we decided to do was to meet at the Outback Steakhouse for dinner.  Good, unpretentious food for all.  …and our waiter was super on top of things.  So dinner was quick.  We managed to make pleasant conversation for about 45 minutes, and then we got the check, and we all got the hell out of there.  So all in all, things went fine.  I’m sure the same will happen for you, as long as everyone commits to being on their best behavior.  (Oh, and also, Fiance and I brainstormed some “topics of conversation for dinner” beforehand, so that we had some go-to topics if the conversation fell off, or went somewhere innapropriate.  I highly suggest doing that as well.)

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