(Closed) Our potential wedding date is one week before a friend help!

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Hostess
18644 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Do the two of you have common friends?  If so, you might be making these common friends choose between the two of you.  But if you aren’t planning on having a lot of common people coming to both weddings, I don’t really see a problem with it.

Post # 5
Hostess
18644 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Some people believe in the ‘stealing thunder’ thing, I personally don’t.  I think that you own the day, but not the entire month of your wedding.

Post # 6
Member
690 posts
Busy bee

I don’t think it is a big problem, but I think your friend might be a TAD upset, especially since it is right BEFORE their wedding.  If you want to avoid this, you could sit down with them, and explain the situation, and ask if they would be OK with it (pointing out that you only have two guests in common, who are OK with it).  They will have a hard time saying no, or being upset with you if you ask.  HOWEVER, you’d have to be prepared that they COULD say it would bother them, and then you’d have to pick another date or go against their wishes. 

Post # 9
Member
2742 posts
Sugar bee

So, did you talk to her? How did she take it?

Post # 10
Member
43 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Well, we had to change our date and due to multiple issues the only day available in our new time frame was the day of a girl I work with (and had taken schooling with beforehand).  We aren’t super closer and I didn’t expect to be invited to her wedding anyway, but I asked her before choosing the date, and she was fine with it.

On of my BM’s has made her wedding a week after mine.  Which made the Honeymoon very difficult, as I am also a Bridesmaid or Best Man in hers, which is out of the country. 

But I mean, I would ask your friend and see what she says.  Then consider how this will affect your Honeymoon.  Then you should be okay πŸ™‚

Post # 11
Member
988 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

If you think she may be a little upset – she probably will be.  While it’s true that people get a day, not a month, I can’t help but think I would be disappointed if I were her – wouldn’t you? 

Also, I’d be concerned about your friends being hungover at your wedding if it’s after her hens night. 

I’d be inclined to choose another date. 

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