Post # 1
Our original priest was transferred to another parish about an hour away, so now we have to go along with our new parish priest. I’m sad and disappointed because we have already developed a relationship with him and if anything, he was more of a friend to us and not just the guy who does mass every Sunday. We finished all the marriage prep requirements with him, and he told us before he left that he’d be happy to officate our ceremony if he had no other obligations at his new parish. Unfortunately, he does have a wedding at his new church on the same day as ours. Our new priest seems intimidating (more conservative, formal and strict), and I’m afraid that he’ll add on additional requirements or have some bizarro restrictions. Our wedding is in less than two months so I’m hoping there will be no new surprises and we set up an appointment next week so hopefully my assumptions are incorrect and all goes well.
Anyone have to deal with choosing a new priest to officiate with only months/weeks to go?
Post # 3
I’m not Cathlic so I don’t know how the whole parish thing works, but since you already have a relationship with the old priest, is there anyway you could see if the priest that is new to your parish could do the wedding that your old priest has to do now so old priest can do yours? Is that even possible?
Post # 4
I haven’t had to deal with choosing a new priest; but I did have to (read: want to) find a priest outside our parish, for the same reasons as you – the parish priest is new, strict, more conservative, and I just am not a superfan.
I know some people have asked childhood priests (those who have performed confirmation, first communion, etc); I decided to ask a priest who was a friend of my Mom’s.
Post # 5
If you have any other priests that you have a relationship with (family friends, from another parish that you have attended mass at, etc), I would consider asking them. I don’t think that the new priest will impose any new conditions on you–usually things like FOCCUS and precana are determined by the diocese, not the priest. I would go into your meeting with him with an open mind–maybe he just comes off as conservative and formal during the mass setting, and is much more personable on an individual basis. Best of luck!
Post # 6
That happened to us to…it sucks, but the new priest seemed nice (if not confused and overwhelmed by the number of weddings he has to perform since he just got transferred to a tourist town) Good luck trying to find a new preist…a lot of times that’s why more work that it’s worth