(Closed) our rsvp update — feeling a bit bummed

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
4047 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I definitely understand. Even though it’s reasonable to expect people, especially out of towners, to decline, it can still be disappointing.

We invited 125ish and had 80 RSVP yes (in line with what we were thinking). I was still worried about the space feeling empty.

We actually only had 71 show up the day of the wedding. It did feel a bit empty. Most people drove in from 2 hours away and had to leave early. But the people who were left we really our nearest and dearest, and we had a blast even if there were only 20 of us at the end of the night!

Keep focusing on the positive and all the lovely people who will be there. 

Post # 3
1844 posts
Buzzing bee

for all my years on wedding forums, I think the RSVP thing is normal – it certainly was true for my 4 girls.

My last Dirty Delete gets married next weekend and we are kinda shocked that only 53% are attending.  We REALLY thought there would be a good turnout!  Part of the problem is her FI’s family – he comes from a very dysfunctional bunch and knew from the get go they would not drive 4 hours to attend a wedding.  That’s a chunk right there.  It is also Father’s Day weekend and graduations/open houses/weddings abound this time of year.  She is also the last of her group of friends to marry and most of them have moved away.

I am doing a very tiny happy dance in the back of my head over the catering bill!  DD is an older bride at 32 and even though she is bummed at how low the turnout is she knows we will still have a good time.  She is an awesome dancer and will have people out on the dance floor.  Her Fiance is not an awesome dancer and will provide some entertainment for those who just want to watch the dancing.

My best advice to you is to remember that you and your new husband will set the stage here.  If you are up and about, mingling with your guests, and staying on the dancefloor your guests will follow your lead.  If you sit all night or stay tight with your bridal party all  night and don’t dance/mingle your guests will follow your lead.

Have a wonderful wedding and think quality over quantity.  We know many wanted to celebrate with us and they just can’t make it.  Their attendance doesn’t define their love for us – their past actions and love do, and we couldn’t ask for better!


Post # 5
1844 posts
Buzzing bee

The very best of luck to you!!

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