(Closed) Our seating arrangements for the reception really should not be this difficult.

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
2742 posts
Sugar bee

I’m not planning on showing the parents the seating chart. I don’t need any headaches with that. And I agree with you, I’m sure most folks can stand 2 hours sitting down eating dinner and listening to speeches 🙂

Post # 4
1909 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@ashlee2103: Oh no! What a headache :/  Ummm, does adding more tables incur additional expense? I’m thinking linens, centerpieces, chairs, etc. You’ve already worked it out twice, I’d ask mom nicely if she can rework within the existing number of tables.

Post # 6
222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I am in a very similar situation. It’s so frustrating! My fiance is the one who keeps changing our seat arrangement. I feel the same way as you, can’t these people get along for a few hours at a wedding? Sheesh! And he’s totally fine with adding tables (we do have to pay extra for centerpieces and stuff) and having those tables only half full. It’s driving me crazy! I’ll keep my fingers crossed for the both of us! 🙂

Post # 7
98 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We ended up having some empty spots at a few tables.  We could have fit everyone at 10 tables, but we were able to get more people who knew each other/had things in common per table by having 11 tables with an empty seat or two at each.  However, we did not do this because of any personality conflicts.  We just did it because we thought people would have the best time sitting with the others at their table.  We even had my divorced parents at the same table.  They do not get along and even they were fine.

I would go with your first draft or the one you did on Friday.  People will be fine for the 2 hrs sitting with people they don’t like.  As long as there are 1 or 2 people at their table they do like, it will not be an issue.  You can’t have a conversation with the entire table even if you wanted to.  People just talk with whomever is next to them.  So those who don’t get along will just end up across from each other, or even if they are next to each other, they will just turn and chat with those on their other side.  Your mom is well meaning but she is really over thinking it.

Post # 8
1829 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

UGH, I hear you on this one!  I’ve just spent the past four hours trying to do seating arrangements and am about to tear my hair out.  My mom also has strong ideas on who should sit where and I’m sort of the view point that people can get along for two hours of dinner.  After moving people around about a hundred times now, I’m throwing in the towel for tonight; ‘ll give it another go tomorrow and then that’s it. 

Table arrangements = most annoying aspect of wedding planning…..BY FAR. 

I would just go with what you have – or, if your mom is willing to keep redoing it AND willing to make your place cards…. well then, by all means, let her do it as many times as she would like so long as it gets done before the big day!   🙂 

Good luck! 

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