Post # 1
I haven’t been on the Bee in forever! I used to post under a different username back when I was planning my wedding but since some of my friends in real life knew my old username I have decided to start afresh with a new profile to discuss the new chapter in my life
Our 1 year wedding anniversary has been and gone and DH and I are talking about starting to TTC at the end of the year. Thing is, we’re not telling ANYONE and I’m 100% sure no one expects that we are TTC this soon. We would just rather keep this special time and all the excitement between the 2 of us and not have family and friends asking constantly if we are pregnant yet…
So my question is, who out there kept TTC a total secret? And who did you find it the hardest not to tell??
Right now I’m struggling to keep it from my best friend and mum since we are so close! Ahhhh – bring on the end of the year I say!
P.S Heaps excited to be back on the Bee too! Love this community!
Post # 3
People found out when we were TTC… And it was SUPER awkward!
Post # 4
I know people who were very public about TTC and it sometimes got awkward. I also know people who’ve announced too soon and then had to tell people they miscarried or it was ectopic etc. I feel like keeping it private until you have an announcement is best 🙂
Post # 5
Hi there! I had a few people who knew I had come off birth control, although when people asked we just said we were NTNP. This is what we planned to do at first but then I wanted so badly for it to work right away that we used OPKs. A lot of people expect it will take months and months, but we were so lucky to have it happen the first try 🙂 What I’m finding difficult is keeping the actual pregnancy a secret.. feeling like I want to shout it from the rooftops!
Post # 6
We def won’t be telling anyone and I’m not sure if they will expect it or not. The hard part will be keeping the pregnancy a secret but I’m hoping I can!
Post # 7
@Mrs.H2B: Congrats on your pregnancy! Super exciting! When are you going to start telling people?
@BrandNewBride: Did you feel like there was more pressure on you when people knew that you were TTC?
Post # 8
@PinkTeapot: Not really, but I’m 23 and DH is 28, so we weren’t in any rush.
It was just SO awkward that people were constantly bringing up “I know you want it to happen the first time, but it took me 8 months of trying with the first baby! So don’t get disappointed if it doesn’t happen right away…”
And I was pregnant while we were getting these comments! But too early to tell. Since people knew we were trying, we’d told the entirety of both extended family by 8 weeks!
Post # 9
my friends i am close with know that we will be trying right after the wedding, only 32 days to go.
so it is not a secret but i certainly won’t be telling them day to day details. when i find out i am pregnant, i will tell my 3 best friends, my mom, and maybe my brother. everyone else will have to wait until the 3 months pass.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church
My parents know that we’re going to start like six months after getting married, but that’s because I told them I had to change up some of my medications because they weren’t TTC-friendly. His parents don’t know because his parents would probably get all crazy about it while my parents kinda don’t give any shits.
I don’t intend to tell anyone until two months in besides my doula friend because she’s full spectrum and would be able to counsel me if a miscarriage occurred. We’re also probably not going to find out the sex of the infant until birth.
Post # 11
FI and I are TTC and keeping it hush hush. We both want our first child before we are 30. I am 27 he is 28 so we want to get moving. Our wedding is in 26 days so we decided to hop to it 🙂 we’ll see how it goes lol
Post # 12
@BrandNewBride: Don’t you just love “helpful” advice? Haha.
@DandSwedding: Good luck! Hope you guys get pregnant quickly!
Post # 13
I thought it was the norm to share nothing until you had your 12 week scan? I plan on sharing nothing at all… not TTC, not a BFP… nothing!
Also, I really don’t want to know about people TTC. Too much information…
Post # 14
- Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church
@Rachel631: One of my coworkers told me a few days ago that when another coworker was TTC a few years ago, she announced to the entire clinic that she and her husband were renting a cabin for the weekend and that they were gonna make a baby. Um… thank you for that information? Enjoy your weekend or something?
Post # 15
I prefer to keep pepple out of my bedroom activites. I dont see benefit to itespecially if there are difficulties. Aslo people monitoring my belly. And I dont trust Moms especially to keep it quiet.
Post # 16
@PinkTeapot: definitely my sisters. We are extremely close, and they will also be my doulas. Its killing me. And 2/3 of my closest friends 🙂 both have newborns and they keep telling me FI and I should get prego and I just want to scream “WEVE BEEN TRYING SINCE BEFORE YOU ACCIDENTLY GOT PREGNANT!” but I will do my best to shut my mouth in order to preserve all friendships amd avoid the “are you pregnant yet!?”‘s. Lol