- Wedding: September 2019 - City, State
@MrsStrawberry24: Hell to the no.
I am black, raised in the same environment as you are saying that your son is. I would never, ever, ever, ever, change his school, because they try to give “urban” school less tools to educate, and the teachers do not try as hard.
As far as exposing him to other black children, it’s a good idea, as long as they are positive kids. In the same token, you need to keep him away from degenerate white kids, too, cause they do crazy things like huff on air conditioners. I was told I was too white and all that. It wasn’t until I got to college, that I gravitated to black people.
What’s important is that your son understand that black people are just like white people. You don’t want him to get the negative stereotypes of black people in his mind. And he doesn’t have to know rap songs. There’s nothing wrong with his language. My niece used to talk very properly and correctly until she got around children who talked flatly and with slang. But this is not black culture. It is simply lazy, uncaring parents, as you say. However, once your child is in school, the majority attitude will overpower what you taught the kid, so you have to make sure he’s deeply engrained with what’s right, so the majority won’t pull him too far the wrong way.
There’s gotta be other black people in your area, so I’d find some of them to hang out with. But just make sure he is well rounded and also talk to him about racism, make sure he’s not experiencing it from other kids at the white school. Some white kids don’t even realize they are racist, and they will say stuff like, you’re not like all the other black people. Make sure he knows that all the “other” black people are not like that either, because it’s a stereotype. Going to college made me realize that the majority of black people are NOT what you see on TV, in the news, on hiphop videos, etc. but this is what the white kids are exposed to. Think about it. If your son is not exposed to black people, you know good and well the white kids at his school probably don’t see black people either, unless it is on TV.
Lastly, do not let anyone tell you that your child is TOO anything. He is perfect just the way he is. Just make sure he stays are perfect as he can be when the world gets ahold of him.