- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2017
I know there are a lot of reasons for many bees to wait for a proposal.
My fiance and I moved very quickly. I was pregnant (it was not an accident, and I didn’t trick him. I informed him that I wasn’t on the pill, he also wasn’t opposed to having a baby, it just happened immediately) within three months of meeting him. So we started out quite differently than people usually do. we also took a lot of slack from loved ones but I know it came from their concern.
He knew that I wanted to get married, he knew that from day one. We moved in with each other and his teenage daughter moved in with me too before our daughter was born.
I had been sending him pictures of rings and all that for a few months before getting engaged. we were engaged in July 2016, just shy of being together for two years and one month shy of our daughters first birthday.
I love my fiance. I love him for his strengths and I love him despite his weaknesses.
He is not a romantic, share his feelings type. He’s quiet about his feelings but I’m confident in how he feels about me because he shows it every day in such little ways. (Turning my seat warmer on in my car when he moves it out of the driveway so he can take his car to work… grabbing a drink for me when he gets one for himself when I didn’t even ask for one… just this morning I was looking for the bag of diapers and wipes that I kept forgetting to bring to daycare and lo and behold, he had put them in my car for me). such simple acts of kindness that make me feel very loved and cared for.
He’s been married before and he has been there and done that. Also, combining finances and starting out with a baby put us in a different situation than many of the waiting bees. We don’t really have surprises or secrets because all of our bills and finances are shared and that results in a lot of difficult talks.
I’ve long known about him not being a romantic. one day in July I realized that if I wanted an engagement and a ring, I would have to take matters into my own hands.
I created a collage of pictures of the two of us with our daughter and his daughter. I acted as if it was from our one year old and I wrote “daddy, will you marry my mommy” on the picture. I popped it into our mailbox addressed from our daughter.
Naturally, he was hours late from work that day. But he opened the envelope, and he said yes 🙂 actually, he said he was sorry and that the baby was sleeping so he couldn’t answer her until the morning 😉
We ordered a ring that night and have set a date for Friday, October 13th 2017. Friday the 13th was absolutely on purpose.
Although he is not the romantic type, he surprises me by being involved and interested in the wedding planning. He was vocal and choosey in our meeting with the caterer and he even has ideas for centerpieces.
I couldn’t be happier bees, and my happiness comes from choosing to embrace him as he is, faults and all just like he embraces mine <3