Post # 1
Good Lord, ladies.
Our upstairs neighbors have very loud sex at all hours of the day and night.
The night time problem has been solved with a very loud fan, but during the day I have no idea who to do. I don’t have cable in the living room, where I work, to use to drown out the noise. And listening to music only goes so far without headphones…and I really don’t want to have to wear headphones all day just incase they decide to have a romp at noon.
Is there any tactful way of asking them to keep it down? Or do you have any suggestions on how to drown out the noise?
Post # 3
@LindsayMaree: You could start with the “use a broom to bang on the ceiling” method.
If that doesn’t work, you could slip a note under their door.
Let them know you work from home and the “noises” coming from upstairs do not go over well with clients on your conference calls.
Other than that I’m not sure, maybe one night when they get going you and your Fiance give them a run for their money? See if you can be louder than them? Maybe they’ll get the point.
Post # 4
Yikes! That is a definite tough one!
Honestly, I don’t know how one tactfully asks someone to “keep it down”. With that said, while DH and I were just dating and I was living on my own, my downstairs neighbour (who was an elderly lady) decided to *randomly* tell me that she and her husband could hear us at night… it was the most awkward moment, ever! DH wished he would have been the one to answer the door to so he could mess with her (“WHAT! We’ve never had sex! That cheating bitch!”). The lady was an absolute witch, though…
Post # 5
@LindsayMaree: We used to have upstairs neighbors that would have the LOUDEST marathon sex. And honestly, they were the nicest people in the world, so I could never bring myself to say anything to them. I really don’t have any good advice, but I do know how you’re feeling! It woudl be really awkward during a nice quiet dinner or when we had guests over. lol. Good luck!!
Post # 6
“That cheating b*tch!” Lol! Really, I think a note under the door would suffice. How awkward.
Post # 7
I dont know about tactful….
I know a guy whose roommates were so loud, he kicked open their door wearing a ski mask and holding a chain saw.
Now while funny, I don’t think people should go doing that though. You could get arrested or worst…shot.
Post # 8
Just a hunch, but I’m guessing a nicely wrapped ball gag on their doorstep isn’t subtle enough?
Maybe if you see them, ask what kind of redecorating/exercise they are doing.. say you hear them moving heavy objects all day. That way they get the message but you don’t have to address the topic directly.
Post # 10
@KatNYC2011: “… maybe one night when they get going you and your Fiance give them a run for their money?”
Hahaha The broom idea is a good one though, I don’t know if they’ll actually be able to HEAR the tumping of the broom over themselves, but I suppose it’s worth a shot.
LOLOLOL Your FI’s response would have been hilarious! But you’re right, knocking on the door to confront them would be super awkward…Sorry you had to live throught that.
Aaaaand that’s terrifyingly wonderful. If I knew these people, I might consider doing something similar. 😉 Haha
I guess I’ll try the note under the door method. I just hope it doesn’t make them spiteful or something.
Post # 11
Omg a ball gag! HAHAHA I’m seriously dying with laugher over here!
Post # 12
Alright. I have found that turning the music on the computer up deafeningly loud drowns out the noise, and I only have to have it on for about 10 minutes. 😛
I talked to my sister about it yesterday and she said that she never heard it when she was living here, but she has a wild theory about the man upstairs having an affair on his girlfriend/fiance. It’s not true (my window faces the parking lot and I see everyone who comes and goes from our building), but we laughed for a while about it.
I was hoping they overheard me talking to my sister about it yesterday, (I know that they were both home when I was going on and on about how loud they were being) but after the noises I just heard, it seems unlikely they did.
Looks like I’ll be writing a note shortly.
Post # 13
Darn I was hoping this was a good update. I hope the note doe the trick, I would be so embarassed if I were that couple and no one told me how loud we were. Good luck!
Post # 14
I would knock on their door and confront them in the middle of it. I am THAT mean.
Post # 16
I think banging a broom handle on the ceiling is never a good idea.*
my suggestion: write them a note. I know many of us hate note leavers, and typically it’s way more polite to just knock on the person’s door and ask them (nicely) to keep it down. however, since this involves sex, a face to face conversation will be embarrassing for both parties. hence, the note.
if the note does not work, then try a face to face convo (when they’re not having sex), and suggest they put some thick rugs down to muffle noise. if that still doesn’t work, then talk to the landlord.
*I once had a super loud neighbor that I had talked to a couple of times. they had really thin floors and they were just loud all the time. one night, I enraged him by banging on the ceiling (he was having a LOUD fight at 3am with his wife and it sounded like they were throwing furniture, no exaggeration). he started screaming and cussing at me through the floor. it was SO scary. telling the landord about the problem helped more than anything else I did. the landlord forced them to get rugs, and told them to not scream at night. things got way quieter after that.