(Closed) Our upstairs neighbors are uncomfortably loud

posted 8 years ago in Home
Post # 3
8735 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@LindsayMaree:  You could start with the “use a broom to bang on the ceiling” method.

If that doesn’t work, you could slip a note under their door.

Let them know you work from home and the “noises” coming from upstairs do not go over well with clients on your conference calls. 

Other than that I’m not sure, maybe one night when they get going you and your Fiance give them a run for their money? See if you can be louder than them? Maybe they’ll get the point.

Post # 4
39 posts

Yikes!  That is a definite tough one!

Honestly, I don’t know how one tactfully asks someone to “keep it down”.  With that said, while DH and I were just dating and I was living on my own, my downstairs neighbour (who was an elderly lady) decided to *randomly* tell me that she and her husband could hear us at night…  it was the most awkward moment, ever!  DH wished he would have been the one to answer the door to so he could mess with her (“WHAT!  We’ve never had sex!  That cheating bitch!”).  The lady was an absolute witch, though…

Post # 5
1695 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@LindsayMaree:  We used to have upstairs neighbors that would have the LOUDEST marathon sex.  And honestly, they were the nicest people in the world, so I could never bring myself to say anything to them.  I really don’t have any good advice, but I do know how you’re feeling!   It woudl be really awkward during a nice quiet dinner or when we had guests over.  lol.  Good luck!!


Post # 6
1963 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@losingfocus:  “That cheating b*tch!”  Lol!  Really, I think a note under the door would suffice.  How awkward.

Post # 7
4272 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I dont know about tactful….

I know a guy whose roommates were so loud, he kicked open their door wearing a ski mask and holding a chain saw.

Now while funny, I don’t think people should go doing that though. You could get arrested or worst…shot.

Post # 8
1854 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Just a hunch, but I’m guessing a nicely wrapped ball gag on their doorstep isn’t subtle enough?  

Maybe if you see them, ask what kind of redecorating/exercise they are doing.. say you hear them moving heavy objects all day.  That way they get the message but you don’t have to address the topic directly.

Post # 13
2861 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Darn I was hoping this was a good update. I hope the note doe the trick, I would be so embarassed if I were that couple and no one told me how loud we were. Good luck!

Post # 14
5427 posts
Bee Keeper

I would knock on their door and confront them in the middle of it. I am THAT mean. 

Post # 15
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Post # 16
3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I think banging a broom handle on the ceiling is never a good idea.*

my suggestion: write them a note. I know many of us hate note leavers, and typically it’s way more polite to just knock on the person’s door and ask them (nicely) to keep it down. however, since this involves sex, a face to face conversation will be embarrassing for both parties. hence, the note. 

if the note does not work, then try a face to face convo (when they’re not having sex), and suggest they put some thick rugs down to muffle noise. if that still doesn’t work, then talk to the landlord. 

*I once had a super loud neighbor that I had talked to a couple of times. they had really thin floors and they were just loud all the time. one night, I enraged him by banging on the ceiling (he was having a LOUD fight at 3am with his wife and it sounded like they were throwing furniture, no exaggeration). he started screaming and cussing at me through the floor. it was SO scary. telling the landord about the problem helped more than anything else I did. the landlord forced them to get rugs, and told them to not scream at night. things got way quieter after that. 

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