(Closed) Our wedding is a joke…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Oh I’m sorry.  This sounds terribly frustrating.  I don’t know what your in-laws deal is.  Sounds odd.  8 months will fly by!  I say: don’t wedding talk with Future Mother-In-Law, and just surround yourself with people who are happy and excited–just like you!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Hey Im happy for you!!!! I love hearing your ideas. It sucks when family members are not exciting. And I agree with virginia.. how frustrating and also to surround yourself with happy and excited people is a very good idea.

Chin up, deep breathe and keep thinking positive.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Don’t let your Future Mother-In-Law get you down. It sounds like she’s planned a lot of weddings in her life and I bet at some point she just got tired of it. I’m sure she’s excited about it but she just has different things to get excited about as well. 8 months will fly by in no time and regardless of whatever is happening in anybody else’s life at the time your day will still be YOUR day. 

Post # 7
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3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

What about YOUR family and friends? Are they excited for you?

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2011

You have your big day becase YOU want to.  This day is about you and your partner.  This is not a day about other people and whatever tiffs they have up their butts.  You are in love.  You’re so lucky and so blessed.  Celebrate it with the enthusiasm you want to!  Forget any downers.  Don’t be rude to them, but don’t feel the need to seek their enthusiasm.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Don’t let others’ lack of excitement affect your planning and big day and most of all YOUR excitement about it all.  You’re absolutely right 8 months does fly by, that’s how much time we have to plan and it has gone by so fast.  Anything you can do early to get done and out of the way, I say go for it.  Just focus on yourselves and why you are both doing this in the first place.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Awww I’m sorry. Well like Miss Olive Oil said, just focus on your happiness then. You don’t need validation from other people to be joyful and excited about your wedding. If it is worth it to you, maybe the next time someone makes a “joke” about your long engagement you should say something about it hurting your feelings a little bit. I’m sure your friends don’t mean to make you feel bad when they make little jokes they think are funny. That reminds me of The Office before Pam and Jim got together and Pam was engaged to Roy forever and Michael would make inappropriate jokes about her epic engagement thinking he was hilarious when really Pam just wanted to kill him. Some people don’t get that it’s not funny!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Hang in there.  I’m getting married 10/9/10 and the Knot told me it was time to register, so you aren’t doing that too early. 🙂

I don’t think that’s your major concern, though. Just focus on those who are excited for you and your Fiance and you will get through this.  I bet the Future Mother-In-Law isn’t even aware of what she’s doing…she’s probaly not hurting you intentionally.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

This is hard. I know how you feel. But I think (eventually) your excitement will start to exude and people will feel it.  As it gets closer to the wedding, others will get on board….it’s just not on people’s radar yet.  Most people would think this October is an eternity away! For us brides it’s like a drop in a bucket!

I know how you feel.  We were together for 5.5 years when he proposed, then engaged for 2 years. In the end, we were together for 7.5 years when we got married.  But you know what….we have a really solid relationship and marriage and I’m 1000% confident in our future because we have been through so much together already! 

My Mother-In-Law was also not very interested in our wedding – I found out later that it had to do with some jealousy issues (compared to the wedding she was able to throw for her daughter)….blah blah blah….we didn’t give it one thought though!  We just celebrated, planned and TRULY enjoyed our wedding.  You should do the same.  Laugh it off and enjoy your day… miserable people thrive off of making others miserable.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

We’ve also gotten less excitement from families and friends than we would have liked. My friends are too young to be very interested in marriage and weddings, FI’s family has adopted the “groom’s family isn’t supposed to participate” philosophy, and my parents come from a culture where weddings are planned in like a month and not considered huge affairs at all. 

I haven’t really let this affect me though – Fiance and I are excited and that’s what counts. 

So focus on you two and your planning. And appreciate the freedom you have to make decisions on your own instead of having to deal with a ton of friends and relatives all wanting to be involved and telling you how to plan. 

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

((HUGS)) The advise given is awesome so I have nothing to add but hugs and a promise that this too will pass.  Trust me when you and your fi are expecting your little one, Grandma will come around.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My mom was excited about us getting married until he proposed. Now she’s so unexcited we thought she might not even like the idea any more. I am trying to focus on how excited we are to be married and on enjoying a great day with my close friends.

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