Post # 1
Our wedding is not your local singles dive bar, it’s not a tax write-off reason for you to meet up with your business clients, it’s not flexible with the date/time when it’s been planned for over a year and we’re now 60 days out, and it’s not an evil plot to make you miss a day of school/work/episode of Dr. Oz, etc.
I want to legally and symbolically commit to the man I love, and I want to share it with people that love us and want to celebrate that with us. I don’t care what everyone does the day before, after, or any other day of the year, but I’m certainly tired of people asking if we can change the day/time of our wedding for their convenience, telling us they really need to be done by a certain time so they can meet up with clients, asking us how many “hot single chicks/dudes” are going to be there and if we can hook them up, or asking if it’s okay if they drink during the ceremony because they’re looking forward to being trashed all day.
I’m only asking for max 4 hours out of one day for them to celebrate the meaning behind this wedding. If they don’t want to give up that time, I don’t care if they decline. This isn’t a hostage situation.
Post # 4
We’re 2 years out and already I have this sinking feeling that our families are going to try to turn this wedding into a) family reunion (NO I am NOT inviting great uncle whoever!) and/or b) all about my nieces/nephew because my sister is self absorbed and thinks that the world revolves around her and her children. She already has made it very clear she will not attend if the kids can’t go. HMPH. (21+ wedding. Trying my best to stand firm and yet still be amicable, but if she pushes me much more…)
And then there’s my mother who wants a set of invitations so she can invite her friends who I have never met in my life. Because she simply cannot sit with the rest of the family, oh no! She mentions this demand after saying, quite frankly, “I hope you don’t expect me to pay for any of your wedding.” (No, we are paying everything ourselves, thanks. Gladly!).
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
Someone here once said she had someone ask if they could borrow the photog during the wedding Oslo the guest could get some family shots for a holiday card.
Post # 6
our wedding is not your party, mom! that felt good! I cannot stand when my mother refers to our wedding as her party!!
Post # 7
And as LOUD as you choose…
Because based on many of the posts I see in the WBee ETIQUETTE BOARD, I don’t think there are enough people out there who natuarally KNOW how to be a “Good Guest”
I get how Brides complain about all the RULES OF ETIQUETTE in our more “laid back” lifestyle…
But honestly, after reading some of the topics, I’m thinking that common decency and MANNERS seem to have gone out the window
I guess I should consider myself lucky… at over 50, the majority of my friends & family members GET IT having grown up with such expectations… so hopefully I won’t be pulling my hair out like other Brides at the last minute
Personally, ya know if I was facing what so many of you all are… I think I’d find my inner Bette Davis and no doubt find a way to give someone a piece of my mind…
Post # 8
People have business meetings booked 60 days in advance that they can’t reschedule? Are you seriously kidding me? Which planet are they from? You don’t ask someone to change the date of their wedding; you either accept or graciously decline. FECK.
Post # 9
@MrsWBS: Oh, that’s straight up crazy! If she wants a party of her own, she can throw one on her birthday.
@anothersmith: It’s actually my sister, of all people, asking if we can wrap things up by a certain time because her husband wants to schedule a business meeting/dinner with some clients, which will therefore allow him to use this “vacation” (ya know, my wedding) as a tax write-off. I was so stunned I didn’t say anything on the phone to her, I ended up calling my mom afterward instead and told her that if my sister is more concerned about business meetings, taxes, and time management, she can RSVP no and I’ll gladly accept it. Fortunately mom’s on my side on this one. My sister ended up saying a lot of off the wall things in our conversation today, so maybe the full moon this past weekend really got to her or something… that’s the only rationale I can come up with.
On a side note, @pharmy:, I have a WB/girl crush on you and I always love your responses. I’m sorry you’re already having trouble with some people – I can only hope that means you’ll get it all out of the way now instead of at the last minute!
Post # 10
If it makes you feel better my grandmother and grandfather told my husband and I at the Courthouse to hurry the wedding along because they had to be on the road before traffic (even though they left the house late and I had to move the ceremony back to accomodate them)so my wedding was an inconvienience to them. Still hurts.
Post # 11
SING IT SISTER! This wedding is not a college reunion y’all. I’m a month away from saying suck it to anyone who acts a fool about this stance.