Post # 1
So, we are planning our wedding right now… And I wanted to get some opinions over what we’re thinking thus far… I’ll try to explain this as best as possible!
Ceremony: Outside, at a park (we have a few that we’ve been looking at, gorgeous in the evening hours). Late on a Saturday, between 7:30 and 8:30. Small, only parents and grandparents (as we aren’t close to uncles and aunts, etc. and because we wanted it to be very small, intimate).
Reception: At the park, directly following the ceremony. Desserts (we wanted to make our desserts together, keeping things personal) and wine/champagne (plus non-alcoholic options, of course), and music.
As we still wanted to celebrate with friends we thought that we would extend an invitation to them inviting them to meet us at a local jazz lounge or bar (we love jazz, plus thought about possibly grabbing drinks afterward anyway) for some drinks to celebrate.
A problem with this is my wondering, since it’s technically a celebration in regard to our wedding– would it be wrong for them to take care of their own tabs for the night; since it isn’t our reception or anything?
Sunday: We’d, of course, be extending the Saturday-night invite to our family, but considering the fact that the grandparents and such probably wouldn’t be totally excited about that we’ve decided to have a brunch at our place the following morning, just hanging out with the family, cooking together, and everything before they go home (since they’ll be here for the weekend anyway!)
For those of you who took the time to read this– Thank you– and I’d love to hear what you think or different ideas you might have used in your own ‘tiny’ wedding! Thanks!!
Post # 3
I think it sounds lovely. Yo may want to keep tot the 7:30 time fram if it includes your grandparents as it may be rather late by the time the get home.
There is nothing wrong with expecting your friends to buy thier own drinks. It would be sporting of you to buy a round and maybe some apps if they have them at the club, otherwise there is no need. This is essentially an afterparty and people can pay for thier own drinks.
Post # 4
If you send an invitation, you should pay for the drinks. If it is word-of-mouth, it won’t be as rude to ask people to pay for their own drinks, however then you run the risk of people showing up without ID or cash and not being able to drink.
Post # 6
I think it sounds beautiful. If you worried about providing food and drinks, you could always check with the bar about making just having 1 signature drink you’d provide. Are you inviting your friends to the dessert reception?
Post # 7
I think it sounds lovely! But I do think that you need to make sure your guests understand that the celebration at the jazz lounge is a pay-their-own-way after-party, as opposed to a mini-reception where you’ll be footing the bill, if that’s what you decide to do… not sure of the best way to make this clear on the invites, perhaps someone can suggest some good wording for this. If your budget allows, I think the idea of paying for 1 signature drink for your guests would be especially nice!
Post # 8
mesher – We would just be having the family for the reception..
Thanks so much – all of you! I do love the idea of the signature drink or maybe paying for all drinks made with a certain liquor or something… We’d definitely buy a round or two of appitizers! 🙂
Post # 9
Sounds lovely! But just a tip, check with the parks before you do champagne there. A friend’s small and non-rowdy reception in Seattle got broken up for serving alcahol in a public park.