Post # 1
Let me first start off by saying that our wedding was great! The worst part was just how fast it all goes by. However, I’ve been told by a lot of brides that their ceremony and most of the night is a big blur, but at least I remember everything!
Im feeling guilty because I didn’t get to talk to all our guests. Our wedding was at 6:30, I think it started a little late, over by about 7. We did spend a while on pictures afterwards, probably about an hour, but the bar was open and there was plenty of food and music! When we got back thought I was doing a great job because I went up to and visited witheveryone there! It wasn’t until the next day when my parents were bringing up all the guests that I NEVER saw!!
Some of them could have left because they were impatient for photos taking so long, and I do feel bad about that. But my parents also think a lot of them left RIGHT after ceremony, so we couldn’t have talked to them even if pictures were shorter. I shouldn’t feel bad about that, right?? Because I do 🙁
Also, my day of coordinator really wanted us todo a first look, but we didn’t want to. So i felt like she was kind of being like “I told you so” since pictures took a while. She would find times to say “well since pictures took so long…” like she was rubbing it in, that really bothered me.
Photographer even stole us away during the reception when he found a great spot, which I was totally fine with because I want great pictures, but I hope our friends and family weren’t annoyed by this.
I just feel like people think we missed all the fun taking pictures and I hate that!! Maybe it’s all in my head but I feel bad I didn’t talk to the ones who left early and if people think we missed our reception. We had a good hour and a half on the dance floor, so we had plenty of fun!
Post # 3
It’s too bad the photographer excuded the “I told you so” attitude! I would hate that because I don’t want to do a first look.
Did your reception immediately follow the ceremony? If my ceremony was at 6:30 and started late I’d feel cheated out of time at our own reception–that’s the most expensive part!!!
It’s too bad these guests only came to the ceremony too…did you not have a recieving line right after?? I really don’t think we’re going to spend a ton of time greeting guests individually except for the recieving line. I don’t know if that that’s bad etiquette or whatever.
I was at a wedding where the bride and groom dissappeared in the middle of the reception. We’re like…where did they go? It wasn’t until later when we were looking at their wedding album that we figured out they had been stolen away by the photog. They got some awesome night time pics though! I think that’s totally cool but I wouldn’t want to miss too much of my reception for that.
If I can just offer my two cents…I hope you don’t keep feeling bad about it. I really feel like people love to go to weddings to celebrate the couple getting married. I really don’t think that means everyone expects to have a lengthy conversation with the bride and groom. So if they were there to witness your marriage ceremony and had a nice time eating, drinking and dancing at your reception, that counts as celebrating the occasion with you or in your honor even if you weren’t by their side while so doing.
Post # 4
@missjuli: I hadn’t even thought about being cheated out of time! I think it was only a few minutes late though.
Yes reception immediately followed, and it was in the same place. We didn’t do a recieving line, apparently no one does them here. And when we took pics during the reception I think it was only probably 10 minutes. Basically we spent a good amount of time with everyone who STAYED, so I’ll try to not feel bad about people who left. And I’ll mention in thank you notes that I wish we could have chatted more.
Good point about celebrating in our honor, I know that’s all I expect at a wedding.
Post # 5
Why don’t you contact the people that you missed? You could make dinner plans or just write them a special thank you note.