- 8 years ago
Hey everyone, I’d appreciate your advice:
Due to a private reason, we had to postpone our wedding just two weeks before the wedding date. Now that our issues are resolved, I still want to get married asap. We planned for a year, I’m sick of planning, I just want to be married already! We’ve got all the swag done, the bridesmaid dresses, the silk flowers, etc etc everything is ready.. but now there’s no venue, and I get to rethink the major structure of the event.
We had 104 confirmed guests coming.. but there is honestly no way I want to go through the hassle of mailing out new invitations (we called everyone to say we had postponed) and making a new date, and finding a new venue, with the right food etc to satisfy everyone – we’ve woken up and smelled the roses and discovered it’s not so much about the relatives – we just want to be married. And we don’t have a whole lot of parental monetary help – now with this second chance, I realize I’d rather keep my money and be financially secure going into marriage then have a big wedding and feel insecure! Now I know more than ever, the day is just about US, and honestly here’s the issue – I don’t want all those people there any more! I’ve learned my fiance and I would be much more comfortable with just our immediate family – I now have an accurate account of what it would feel like to have a big wedding – and I don’t like the feeling!!!
Here’s what I’d like – a small midday garden wedding in his parents backyard, with a BBQ after, only our immediate family, and wedding party. I would like to do this approximately a month after the “old” wedding date was set for. In your opinions, is this possible? How do I avoid hurt feelings from everyone we invited? I know I can’t avoid all hurt feelings, but there must be a way to do this.
Any help is appreciated!