Out of curiosity….

posted 11 months ago in Rings
  • poll: Did your partner....
    Pick the ring out themself : (27 votes)
    14 %
    Pick the ring out with a little bit of help : (40 votes)
    21 %
    We chose the ring together : (94 votes)
    50 %
    Other (please say below) : (27 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 31
    405 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

    My Fiance’ surpirised me with a proposal on HIS birthday. I am very happy he did not include me in the ring process because I am much happier knowing that I’m wearing a ring which came solely from his heart, had I had a hand in it, it wouldn’t feel as special to me. However, that is NOT to knock anyone whom did help pick out their ring, to each his own.

    Post # 32
    232 posts
    Helper bee

    I picked everything about my ring. I picked the diamond, the setting, and found a local jeweler to set it. I brought the setting and diamond to the jeweler and gave him instruction on how I wanted it set. That was about 5 weeks ago and I assume my boyfriend has picked up the completed ring and hopefully will propose soon. 

    I paid for the diamond, he paid for the setting and setting fee. I went with a Lightbox diamond so we each paid about the same, but it didn’t really matter anyway. We plan to merge finances after marriage so I never felt like he had to “buy me a ring,” it was a financial decision we were making together with our shared resources.

    When we first started talking about engagement, this is how we decided to do it. He’s busy running his own business while also renovating our house and learning everything as he goes, so he really had no extra mental power to learn about diamonds and rings, and tbh no interest either.

    I suggested that I could do all the research and shopping and just give him the finished ring to propose with, and he loved that. We both loved it. I’m the researcher and planner in our relationship, so it really made perfect sense for us to do it this way. When I suggested it, we both were like, oh duh yeah that’s definitely what we should do. At the very end we made a slight change where I didn’t even see the finished ring, he picked it up from the jeweler secretly, but other than that we really stuck to the original plan and it was perfect for us.

    I can’t wait to see my ring though!

    Post # 33
    199 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2019 - Green Bay, WI

    My fiancé went shopping with his sister-in-law (who happens to also be one of my best friends). She helped assist him and made sure he got a good deal and was shown things in his budget, but ultimately he chose the center diamond and then chose the setting himself! I was so surprised and my ring is perfectly “me” πŸ™‚

    It’s rose gold, which he definitely knows is my favorite based on all my other jewelry, lol.


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    Post # 34
    804 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2016 - Wedgewood Las Vegas

    He surprised me when he proposed. He picked this ring out all by himself. I REALLY love that he loves the ring too, and I love the story he tells about when he found it and made the decision to buy it. 


    Post # 35
    307 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2020

    We had the talk about picking himself vs getting my input. He was worried it would be “unromantic” to work on it together, but he was relieved when I said we should look st rings together and narrow it down. We went to a jewelry store to get a few ideas and I created a Pinterest board with what I like.  I didn’t want anything too elaborate but I knew I wanted an antique style cushion. I narrowed down to 3 styles I liked.  He took it from there and worked with Victor Canera to create my dream ring.  I’m so happy he included me in the process, but it was also nice to be surprised.

    Post # 36
    696 posts
    Busy bee

    While I am no longer engaged, my ex-fiance had his mom help – she also did work for Helzberg πŸ™‚


    My brother is getting married in May – I went with him to help him pick the ring, tried them on to show him how it would look on a hand. I helped by keeping it at my place for a month (they lived together) and then helped with the Christmas Eve proposal. It was the sweetest thing, she had no idea and we have the perfect picture of when he showed her the ring and her mouth is wide open and face full of surprise!

    Post # 37
    9211 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    diamond was my grandmother’s she had 2 diamonds.  my mom asked me which one i wanted then gave that ring to my husband to use and trade in the rest of the ring towards a new setting.  i gave him ideas on what i liked.  his friend’s father is a jeweler and he designed the ring. it was better than i imagined.

    Post # 38
    981 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2019

    Not engaged yet but getting close πŸ™‚

    I told him pretty early on that it was important to me to have input. I was married before and had a suprise ring I didnt really like. I never complained about it but given the chance to do it again – I wanted to share some preferences.

    That has turned into me doing a lot of research to narrow down what I like (Im not a jewelry person). At a few points Ive shared designs I like with him.

    As of this week he asked me to email him the info on what I want. I have found the jeweler and ring and cost so he just has to go place the order for it πŸ™‚

    He has told me he wants me to love it and wants me to be happy, so hes been really great about letting me pick <3

    Post # 39
    574 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    I found/chose the diamond and then created the setting pretty much with very little input from my now husband. He is 100% clueless with stuff like this and was happy that I just took the lead and did it! Less pressure for him. 


    Post # 40
    2892 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    juneweddingbee :  My now husband and I had talked about rings and what styles we liked for me when we saw other people get engaged, and then we went to look at rings a couple of times but I thought it would be a couple of years before he proposed so it was just a casual browse (so he could find out my size).

    My husband ultimately ended up picking out the diamond and setting himself, we both wanted a plain solitaire diamond ring for me so it wasn’t that hard. He did great πŸ™‚

    I personally think I would have gone crazy picking out a ring together and then “waiting” for him to propose with it.

    Post # 41
    6638 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2015

    juneweddingbee :  I found a ring we mostly liked online. He worked with the maker, via text only, to modify the design to better fit what he liked too. So kinda together but not exactly.

    End result, My ring is smaller than husband anticipated (I like it just fine, small suits my tastes). It’s also silver and won’t last forever. I think if he gets me a new one someday he will up the stone size to be more what he first imagined. Right now it’s just a couple mm for the center. I doubt it’ll be over a half carat in an upgrade πŸ™‚

    Post # 42
    2570 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I chose my own ring. πŸ™‚ Glad I did, because I love it and it’s exactly perfect for me. Hubby loves it too. 


    Post # 43
    472 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2018 - City Hall

    Darling Husband asked me to find the ring for me, and that’s exactly what I did. 

    Post # 44
    146 posts
    Blushing bee

    Hey Bees,

    He proposed in Victoria BC and he planned for me to buy the ring there.  He was sweet and thoughtful planning everything out.  He actually proposed with a simple silver band which was too small and barely fit and it was literally the best moment of my life.




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