Out of curiosity….

posted 11 months ago in Rings
  • poll: Did your partner....
    Pick the ring out themself : (27 votes)
    14 %
    Pick the ring out with a little bit of help : (40 votes)
    21 %
    We chose the ring together : (94 votes)
    50 %
    Other (please say below) : (27 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 46
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    We visited a few jewelry designers I liked, and sketched out a few ideas. That way I got to try on a whole bunch of different ring styles/ shapes/ sizes so I was confident in what I wanted, and he still got to surprise me with the proposal and the finished ring!

    Post # 47
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    558 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2020 - Summer Camp!

    My partner asked what I liked in a ring, and ultimately, I ended up showing him the Pinterest board I started. It turns out we have pretty different tastes, so he ended up picking from a few of my top rings (maybe 10?). He chose, and I ended up having it custom made through Starsgem with a few changes to make it feel more like “my” ring. I went through the process of ordering to make sure it was right. It may be unconventional, but he was happy to have a ring that I wanted instead (and liked that I went through a design process). 

    Post # 48
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    122 posts
    Blushing bee

    I picked my first one out by myself, I found it sent him the Etsy link and he bought it. Unfortunately I lost that one and we had to get a second one but this time I let him help pick out the style, and choose between a couple of different rings. I bought it myself (it only seemed fair)

    My first one

    My second one

    Post # 49
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    265 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: Scotts ~ Walnut Creek

    The thing is if I’d let him pick the ring I knew I would have hated it bc his idea of perfection was a 2 ct princess cut monstrosity that wasn’t my style at all. 🙈 I didnt want to hurt his feelings or waste his money so we agreed to purchase our own rings. But I sent him my top five and had him pick a top two then chose between his picks. 😀

    Post # 50
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    551 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    We went ring shopping together. I picked out a couple settings that I absolutely loved and said this is what I like, the rest is up to you. From then on I knew nothing, I had no idea when he ordered the ring or the diamond size/quality, etc. I’m happy with how we did it because I got a ring that I truly love but I wasn’t completely involved so he still got to surprise me with the proposal and which setting he chose and the centre stone.

    Post # 51
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    573 posts
    Busy bee

    I don’t have mine yet because it’s busy being created but we designed it together. We went to a local mom and pop, picked out certain details of the setting together and had the jeweller search for a stone; it took a while but he finally found one, inspected it and then brought us in to check it. We just put a deposit on it yesterday. 

    Post # 52
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    165 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2019 - City, State

     

    He picked the ring out himself! The jeweler that makes this ring does not make it in yellow gold, so my fiance had them custom make it in 18k yellow gold. The center stone is a family heirloom diamond from his mother which made it even more special. It’s literally the perfect ring for me, I could not have chosen better even if I had tried. We have been together for 11 years, so he knows me very well! 

    Post # 53
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    39 posts
    Newbee

    My husband proposed with a substitute ring he picked himself. A custom but simple half eternity diamond stacking ring that I sometimes use as my wedding ring. After the proposal we went to the jeweler to finalize my actual engagement ring which he already started the process on. He picked out a few stones he had the jeweler source (DH did all the diamond spec research himself!) and he had a few settings he wanted to see on me. 

    Post # 54
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    677 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    I wasn’tinto engagement rings as they are not a big thing where I am from. I always thought it had to be a 4 prong basket solitaire. Then we went to trip to Amsterdam and strolled through a department store to get me a scarf as I – as always – was freezing. There was the T&Co shop in there and he had me try on some rings. I was sure I would like something like the Harmony setting but he was adiment that a 6 prong tiffany setting was an engagement ring. I was super embarrassed to try those rings on. But then I started looking into things. I’ve never even known about halos and so on. I was all over the place but in fact I did like the solitaire most. We never talked about it but I made him a shortlist of settings I liked as I was very specific about many details a man wouldn’t even see. I sent him a short list alongside some information about diamonds and he picked. (Happend to be my favorite setting)

    Post # 55
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    34 posts
    Newbee

    We looked together in jewelry stores, but ultimately I chose the ring. I had very specific wishes for the design and stone, and he wanted me to have a ring I loved. Once I had the ring & stone selected, we ordered together from James Allen & he paid. 

    Not a huge surprise, but I’m willing to forfeit the surprise for my dream ring. 

    Post # 56
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    83 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2020 - North Carolina

    I 100% picked it out myself. I asked him recently if he had wanted to be more involved in the process than what we actually did, but he said he wouldn’t have known where to begin, and he just wanted me to be happy with it. I think he was relieved not to have to try to search on his own, since my tastes are pretty particular.

    Also, he has not proposed yet, and I have only seen pictures of the ring online, so it will still be a surprise whenever I finally get it and try it on for the first time! He wants to make the date/details of the proposal itself a surprise, which I am happy about

    Post # 57
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    30 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: December 2018 - IU

    I had a private Pinterest board of different ring styles I liked that I made sure he was very aware of. I had also talked with him extensively about the styles I liked and didn’t like. I had a dream ring I loved from Blue Nile that I constantly showed him.

    He ended up deciding to he wanted the experience of picking from a jewelers instead of online and showed the salesworker my Pinterest board and they worked together to find a ring together. He ended up completely surprising me with a ring he had found on his own instead of the Blue Nile ring I had always showed him. I love my ring and it is very similar to the ring I had been dreaming about. I like that he had to put thought into it too in hindsight, instead of picking exactly what I told him to get. He ended up picking a cathedral setting as well, which is something I never would have thought of getting myself but I love it! Very happy with how it turned out.

     

    Post # 58
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    181 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: Fireman’s Pavillion

    My now fiancé took me to a couple of stores to look at engagement rings. He wanted to see what I liked, and had me try things on to see what we both liked on my finger. The ring was his decision and I was surprised when it was given to me, because it was none of the ones I tried on.

    Post # 59
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    177 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2020

    Top is my promise ring that my boyfriend picked out all on his own. The second and third is the ring with the stone we picked out together. He said if he picked then he would get a “square” diamond, so either a princess cut or an asscher cut diamond. Not really my style. Glad we picked together. Can’t wait to have it on my finger soon. 

    Post # 60
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    224 posts
    Helper bee

    moonbee :  Basically the same situation here! I did everything, he was extremely happy not to be involved. I haven’t seen the completed ring yet, waiting for a surprise proposal! I’ve been waiting about a month now since the ring was finished, hoping both of us don’t have to wait much longer!!

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